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 Should I Tell Him How I Really Feel, Breaking Nc, Lost!!
09/07/11 03:13 AM
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I am a single parent who never really experienced true love. I loved my ex-husband, but not in-love with him. I have recently met someone with whom there is a genuine connection. We met online through a dating site and spoke on the phone for hours before we even met. Conversation came very easily and we share a lot of the same interests and values. I was very excited as I thought that I finally met "the one" (possibly). When we did meet, it was like I had known him forever. We were very comfortable together. I was thrilled! It was as if the universe has presented to me everything that I had wished for in a human being! I did not have to pursue him, he pursued me.

He has a very demanding job which takes him away from home on a regular basis, in his company there are only a few that do his role and someone has resigned, leaving the workload on to him and the others. For the next six months he is barely going to be at home and he may possibly have to move 8 hours away from me. He said that he doesn't want to keep me waiting around, that he doesn't want me to put my life on "hold" for him because I literally will probably never see him until March next year. He does the job he does so that he can provide for his children, so that they can have a good life. I would never ask him to stop doing that at all.

I was gutted when I heard this, so was he. Talk about bad timing! If only he was told of this before I met him! The universe, which seemed to provide for me had suddenly pulled the rug out from beneath me.

I genuinely do care for him and like him very much and would rather be his friend than nothing at all.

My question is do I tell him how I really feel, that I would wait forever for him, that I don't care so much that we can't see each other, that knowing that he is there is enough at the moment, that I will wait until we can be together. Do I tell him that I love him? Do I tell him that he is constantly on my mind, from the moment I wake up in the morning until I go to sleep at night? How can I tell him this? Do I write it in a letter? Do I risk telling him and risk our friendship?

Please, any advice would be very much appreciated.

He suggested that we stop all contact. It is killing me feeling this way, the very strong feelings I do have for him knowing that we can't physically be together.

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melshie1975   Should I Tell Him How I Really Feel, Breaking Nc   09/07/11 03:13 AM
jerseygirl   How long ago did you meet (in person)?   09/07/11 06:35 AM
jerseygirl   Oh, and please don't say ANY of that!   09/07/11 06:37 AM
melshie1975   It has been a short time, only 6 weeks! It...   09/07/11 06:54 AM
Sophia   QUOTE (melshie1975 @ 09/07/11 06:54 AM) ...   09/07/11 07:14 AM
MBfromBoston   QUOTE (melshie1975 @ 09/07/11 06:54 AM) ...   09/07/11 07:15 AM
acaitree   QUOTE (melshie1975 @ 09/07/11 07:54 AM) ...   09/29/16 04:18 PM
jerseygirl   6 weeks is WAY to short a time to be telling someo...   09/07/11 07:18 AM
melshie1975   Thank you so much for your replies! You are s...   09/07/11 07:43 AM
jerseygirl   I'm an Aries too, so I understand. But just 2 ...   09/07/11 09:08 AM
sisieko   QUOTE (jerseygirl @ 09/07/11 01:08 PM) I...   02/08/12 04:19 PM
Meandering   QUOTE Hopefully soon this unknown male will reveal...   09/07/11 11:49 AM
~aphrodite~   Hi Melshie, I'm an aries too and my impatienc...   09/07/11 12:35 PM
melshie1975   You guys are fantastic! I am so glad I found t...   09/07/11 05:19 PM
jerseygirl   Don't do it! Keep believing there is someo...   02/08/12 08:18 PM
iamthesun   Thanks JG for that. It helps,me as I nurse my brok...   02/08/12 09:40 PM
jerseygirl   (((((Iamthesun))))) Glad it helped.   02/09/12 07:56 AM
cg50005   Wishing you a bright future with much love, iamths...   02/23/12 04:53 PM
VenusStar   Please consider avoiding telling someone you will ...   10/07/16 01:03 PM

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