Married
women have less sex today than their grandmothers did.
This
is some kind of a joke, right? It's hard to believe in our seemingly shock-proof,
"sex sells everything from luxury cars to breakfast cereals" society.
Sex is everywhere we look: pre-teens sport bare midriffs, and come-hither
pouts adorn the pages of everything from fashion-forward mags, rags and
clothing catalogs, but if sex is everywhere, then how is it that
we aren't "getting it on" like grandma did?
The
British magazine Prima studied four generations of married women
and found that our grandmothers were having more sex back in the 1950s
than their granddaughters are having now. Their survey found that women
in the 1950s had sex an average of twice a week, while two-thirds of today's
women say they are too tired to manage that much.
Not
only have women's attitudes toward love, sex and marriage changed over
the last 60 years, but women are also more likely to remain single
longer and spend more time focusing on careers and building wealth. No
wonder lovemaking reportedly takes place less now than at any time
since World War II. The
study found that women in the 1950s had more sex because they were more
likely to be stay-at-home wives with less hectic lives. A typical day
for modern moms looks like this: breakfast for the kids and hubby, rush
off to an 8-10 hour work day, spend lunch-hour at the gym, on the way
home pick up some groceries and run other errands, pick up the kids from
soccer, throw in a load of laundry, fix dinner, and finally squeeze in
a little family time before the kids go to bed. With a frenetic pace like
this, how do modern women find time for sleep, let alone sex?!? Even
married women without children report that they no longer feel
obliged to just cook, clean and "fulfill their wifely duties." There are
many opportunities available in our global community, and women today
have a bounty of civic, social and creative activities to keep them on
the run and out of the house for longer periods. Along with opportunity,
distractions also abound, such as the internet, 24-hour television programming
on 500+ channels, video games, and unlimited phone access day and night
- none of which were available back in grandma's day - when darkness fell,
it was pretty much time for bed and the entertainment that lay therein. Of
course, sex before marriage is now the norm, with four out of five
couples sleeping together after a handful of dates. This was not standard
practice when our grandmothers were dating. A possible conclusion may
be that after prolonging the wait to
have sex, the passion did not fade as quickly as reported by a moderate
percentage of modern couples who had an exuberant sex life for months
or even years prior to tying the knot. Our
coaches at Mars Venus receive calls from both men and women wondering
how to keep the magic and passion alive in a marriage. For women in particular,
it can be a struggle to feel sexy and sexual after a long day or week
of juggling kids, career, housework and relationship. The following hot
tips may help the sexual frequency for busy and stressed-out couples:
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Quickies -
good sex doesn't always require lots of time. Take a sudsy shower
together before hitting the hay or bring the laptop to bed and
read erotic stories - you'll both be worked up in a matter of minutes.
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Weekend
Getaways - call Grandma and drop off the kids
before heading to a quiet hideaway. She'll definitely understand.
Yes,
our lives are busy and we would love to have as much sex as
much as Granny did. We all have the same 24 hours in a day, and by
learning to better prioritize what is really important - in this case,
sex - you can have it and have it more frequently. Why watch the passion
fizzle? Talking to a Mars Venus Coach can put a fresh perspective on
how to fit more sex into your "busting at the seams" lifestyle. A Coach
will not only be your sounding board for all the stresses involved
when you're doing it all, but will also help to put enough sizzle into
your sex life to make your grandmother proud. To learn more about this
program click here. |
