Online Dating Tips

Hints and Tips for Online Flirting

How can you flirt online with Internet dating suitors prior to a face-to-face meeting? What can you say in an email to entice someone to go beyond email communications?  It is hard to find good online dating tips with so many different sources out there, so Ask Mars Venus compiled a list of some of the most successful online dating tips.  The next time you try to meet someone on the Internet, you can put your best foot forward.  Below are some obstacles, recommendations, and tips for online dating success from other Internet daters.  We hope this will point you in the right direction.

Online Dating Obstacles:

What are the biggest obstacles to email flirting with Internet dating candidates?

No chemistry online: One of the biggest barriers to flirting online is the lack of a chemistry connection. One 42-year-old female writer shared, "It's hard to flirt via email because flirting is so much about physical attraction and eye contact.”

Misunderstood Flirting: Flirting online with the right message can actually be an art. A 40-something actress shared, "If you flirt too heavily, they might get the wrong impression and think you want to sleep with them on the first date.” A 34-year-old male movie director shared another warning. He said, "Do not ask them about their ex-boyfriend or ex-husband because you don't want them thinking about the past. The more you get another guy on their brain, the more that you are just hurting your chances.”

Grammar Issues: Several people noted that poor spelling and grammar are big turn-offs. A 40-something Public Relations Manager shared, "I take off points for bad spelling and grammar.” Alternatively, one guy commented, "Some people type fast, so as long as it is not too bad, I'm ok with a few mistakes. However, I usually proof my emails before I send them out.”

Online Dating Tips:

So what are the tricks to flirting online when Internet dating?

Humor is your Ally: You are trying to entice a candidate to keep communicating and perhaps go to the first-date level, so levity is important. A 38-year-old female comedian shared, "I don't think it is hard to flirt via email at all. It's like acting. It's very fun to flirt online.”

A 35-year-old male film editor commented, "It depends on the person. You need to be able to read the person to tell what kind of humor you can get away with. Humor is definitely sexy, and so is confidence because girls pick that up.”

Try making a funny comment about his or her username, email address or profile comments. For example, one 38-year-old Marketing Director revealed, "One guy had something in his tag line about ice and cold. My email subject line to him said, "Thaw your profile and thought I'd write.” She added that it might be "corny, but at least it's not just the run-of- the-mill answer.”

Keep it Simple: Use light-hearted emails with an upbeat tone to attract your suitors online. A 40-something female painter shared, "Make your responses simple and use simple questions in your emails to flirt.” There is no need for long emails either. A 42-year-old makeup artist shared, "I can tell if I am interested in just 3-4 sentences.”

Hand out a Few Compliments: One of the best ways to flirt online is to extend a few sincere compliments. People love to be told good news. Share a couple of positive notes in your emails, but remember not to overdo it. One 30-something guy commented, "I always try to say something subtle, but sincere.” You might say to someone who plays the piano, "I think it is awesome that you play piano.”

A 35-year-old actor shared another example on this topic: "I met a girl a week ago, and I emailed her, 'You do know how cute you are.' I think everyone loves a compliment.” He added, "Be sincere and don't throw out phony baloney.”

Ten Flirtatious Questions:

Try using these ten flirtatious questions recommended by active Internet daters as a way to attract potential mates on the net:

  1. Where did you get that fantastic smile?

  2. Where was that great photograph of you taken?

  3. Where is the most romantic place that you've been on a date?

  4. How could you possibly be 45 when you look 30 in your picture?

  5. If you could go anywhere in the world for a romantic vacation, where would you go?

  6. What was your ex thinking when he/she let you go?

  7. What is your favorite ice cream flavor and why?

  8. What is your favorite color and why?

  9. Should I pick you up in my Rolls or Benz?

  10. So when are we going to make out? On the first date or the second date? (Depending on the person, you can sound cute using this one.)

So don't forget your humor and good will, and keep it simple when email flirting on the Internet. You will have better luck using levity and throwing out a few sincere compliments with your Internet dating candidates online.

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