Sonja was marvelous. I felt totally at ease with her. She was supportive, insightful and a great listener. She walked me through the steps of creating a healthy relationship by thinking about my ideal mate and what I have to offer. She also offered suggestions and tips that were extremely useful. She sounds like she'd make a great friend. Thank you Sonja!! ~ Caroline
Coach Christine was very helpful and encouraging. She helped me address some of the issues that I have in regards to my current relationship. Coach Christine helped me to recognize when men cave and how to respond positively to the cave. She also helped me understand how to speak to men in a way to get them to listen and respond to us as women. Coach Christine also is working with me to address deep rooted issues I have from past relationships so I can progress in future relationships without feeling as if I am working. ~ Christina
Debbie was very helpful and informative. She gave me insight to my current relationship to be receptive and positive. I look forward to speaking to her again. My boyfriend is definitely caving right now with all the stresses in his life and I'm definitely on the wave ride close to crashing. I have learned from reading the book Mars & Venus Dating that I have been pretty much the one doing everything in the relationship. I am now taking the approach of allowing him to pursue me once the stress load has reduced in his life more. We had gotten to stage 4 in our relationship, but now it seems to have stallled. I am practicing self assurance, being receptive and responsive in our relationship. ~ Hilda
Merna's feedback and coaching was incredibly helpful. She helped me to recognize how my history and past relationships were coloring how I was looking at my current relationship and why. She also helped me to level set where I was in the dating cycle and how I should proceed forward in dealing with both my feelings of uncertainty and the fact that he is apparently in the same phase and dealing with past issues of his own. It helped to also hear that my communication issues are not unique and be provided with a technique to work through my internal frustration, fears, and nervousness. ~ Joanna
Wonderful practical suggestions. I wish I could have afforded to speak with her longer. I appreciated her positive attitude and ability to hone in on the dynamics of my situation. The main concerns I had regarding how to protect myself emotionally and how to deal with the other person's behaviors without losing my mind were appropriate and I have them all carefully written down. Even if I can't preserve my job with these techniques, I will try to take them with me to my next place of employment. ~ Cheryl
I will say again that Merna was a big help. I got the book she suggested and have been reading through and beginning the exercises. It's tough to start over and I feel like she is making herself readily available to me. I really appreciate that. I also find that some of the concepts sound fine on paper and you can write things out, but until you practice them it's not the same thing. Merna is helpful at looking at what I have done in terms of past behavior, and she is helping to guide future decision-making so I don't keep making the same mistakes. ~ Annette
It was a pleasant call. I am glad that I got to talk with Susan today. She helped me realize what was going on in my relationship. Although we did not solve everything (I know only I can do that) she was a lot of help to me. She listened and gave me feedback on the situation as well. She was compassionate yet honest at the same time. I do not know what the future holds for my relationship and I am still very confused about things. But I feel better after our conversation. I know that does not have to just do with our conversation but it also has to do with me and my determination to move on with or without my boyfriend... ~ Jessica
I am truly grateful that I found your service. My friends are helpful but sometimes don't give the best advice. But Merna helps me understand the situtation from both sides. With Her coaching I have seen results & I hope my romantic relationship continues to improve. If not with my current love interest than with the next guy someday. Privacy is important to me. It can't be guarnteed with friends or family this is another reason I rely on this service. I have told friends about this service too. Thanks. ~ Teresa
Susan B. was great - she took the time to get to know and understand my situation, validated my feelings, but gave me real, concrete advice on how to proceed. I would call again. Even when I questioned the Mars/Venus method (i.e. why women are the ones compromising when men are in the cave - my concerns that his needs are being met while mine are not), Susan was supportive and validated my feelings. ~ Melissa
Merna was so insightful and really helped me start exploring the root of my problems in relationships. She made me feel so much better and helped me understand that I can take control of life. I didn't realize how much pain I was holding onto and also how past events were taking a toll on my happiness. I knew I had dealt with very unfortunate situations but I wasn't aware that they could be affecting my dating life. She showed me how they are related and now it seems so obvious. I feel with her help I will be in a much more positive place very soon! And hopefully ready to meet my soul mate. ~ Heather
I really felt the conversation had value. While I had worked out much of what I wanted to prior to my talk but Gwen asked insighful questions and contributed some thoughts that I had not fully considered. Overall the session helped me understand the situation and develop a good win-win plan for moving forward with my wife so that we may continue along the road of happiness we are on. Although this was my first session of this type I am confident that as we move forward I will call Gwen again and tap into her for additional insight as well as helping me fully understand what my thoughts are as it relates to my relationship. ~ Dave
I really enjoyed speaking with Cyndi. She really helped me gain some clarity in my situation. It is so wonderful to have the support of someone that really knows the Martian ways! I have read 3 of the books, and having someone to discuss the material with live was wonderful and tremendously helpful. I'm in a new realationship, and as we are learning about each other, little insecurities have come up for both of us. In just the day it has been since I spoke with Cyndi and used some of the tools she recommended, I'm feeling more confident and connected with him. I have been recommending the books to everyone, and will definitely encourage people to speak with a counselor if they get "stuck"! I will definitely call Cyndi again. ~ Melanie
I have been struggling with several issues in my life in addition to my relationship. I began my conversations with Mary Beth several weeks ago and have established a routine of calling her on a weekly basis for support. She has been a tremendous source of comfort and has helped me through some very dark times in my life. I never thought I'd find this kind of support by making a phone call to an "800" number. But Mary Beth has a natural ability to make callers feel comfortable... as if they are chatting with a close friend or neighbor. She has a gift for listening sincerely, validating my feelings, and offering helpful feedback. I always hang up the phone feeling just a little bit better than I did before. I wish she lived somewhere nearby so I could schedule appointments with her. Although I've met with a local counselor, I have not established the type of connection I have with Mary Beth. Fortunately, Mary Beth has made herself readily available to talk to me on a regular basis. She always reminds me that she is there to listen and offer support when I need it. I know that one day I will look back on this difficult chapter in my life and know that she helped me through it. I will always be grateful for her understanding and willingness to help. She is an extraordinary counselor person! ~ Cathy
Merna T. was incredible. Her beautiful voice was so comforting and empathetic. She was not redundant as many people can be and get nowhere. She was very reassuring that what I was experiencing was normal and I was not to feel alone. She validated my fears and reactions. She gave me the tools to confront my situation and then how I will be able to deal with the aftermath. She let me talk and asked the correct questions. I felt as if she knew exactly what I was going to say next. I would recommend her to anyone that has fear and mostly uncertainty. ~ Jil
It was very nice to speak with someone who knew and understood the concepts behind the MarsVenus books; someone who could clarify a bit better, when I needed it. I felt validated and encouraged to continue on the path I am on, with these new tools. The coach was friendly, approachable, and knowledgeable, and I didn't feel awkward or embarrassed in the least. I certainly won't mind calling back, if needed. I appreciate the support, and the ability to explore further with homework suggestions, and the fact that I can call the same coach again. Thanks ~ Tami
Sonja K was a pleasure to talk to. She took in every detail of my situation and offered alternative viewpoints and suggestions that really put my mind at ease. I'm looking forward to doing the exercises she provided, filling up my love tanks with other activities, and allowing my relationship to grow naturally and hopefully without anxiety. Being back in the dating world after having been out of it for some time, I really appreciate knowing that there's a friendly ear I can count on with an objective viewpoint that can help ease my worries. Thanks Sonja! ~ Amy
I thought Christine's advice was great - she really helped me to find the words and get the courage for a difficult conversation I need to have - now I just need to pull it off! I think it can be a bit odd (for me at least) to talk with someone I've never met about a problem, but the best part was that I felt she was asking a lot of the right questions, being objective, and not just telling me what I want to hear. I would definitely use the Mars-Venus coaching again since I tend to over-think things and get myself WAY too spun up about stuff! ~ Michelle
Merna is amazing. What I really like about our calls is that she gives me actual exercises to work on, actual step-by-step guides for what to do. I want sympathy and someone who understands what I am feeling... but I also want to know why I am feeling the way that I am, why my boyfriend is behaving the way that he is, and what I can do to improve the relationship. Give me specifics and information that makes sense. Merna does that... through her guidance and support, I have made so much headway into the source of my pain and suffering... and how I can move forward in my current relationship. Again, she is amazing. ~ DeAnn
Mary Beth was really calming and helpful. She made me feel comfortable, and she made me more confident about my situation. I think dating is probably one of the hardest things you deal with in Life, and it helps to have a resource such as the Men are from Mars Women are from Venus coaching. I really feel like I have a new grasp on the male/female differences that so often ail us in relationships. My situation is still not resolved, which is unsettling, but Mary Beth gave me the comfort I needed to help get through it. ~ Palmer
Thank you so very much for all that you have given me to think about. Cass is such a good listener and her observations are right on. I never feel like she is talking down to me, rather that she does understand the power of "that" moment that I am in and gives me the best she has to offer. I thank God and the universe for putting me in contact with her. She really is a gem and helped me to understand my husband and save my marriage. I am forever changed by having her as my coach. Thank you John Gray for your insight and wisdom into the galaxies! ~ Dianne
Melodie is as always, the BEST. She helped me clarify my thoughts on several issues. I called because an old flame, over whom I had spent many months in the anguish of unrequited love, emailed me. It had been 2 years since the ending of the relationship, and a year or more without seeing each other. Out of the blue he sends an email, wanting to get together. Needless to say, the spell of this man was long broken; yet, there is curiosity about whether it could be rekindled, and more importantly, whether it should be rekindled. Melodie is spectacular at getting to the crux of an issue. ~ Judy
The telephone session was very helpful. Melodie was insightful and communicated well. I explained my situation and background information. Melodie gave me reassurance and good ideas--both of which I appreciate because I need to be very patient with this situation, and I so much want it to work out. I find that much of the advice available in books and online is more geared towards younger daters so I appreciated having an individual session. ~ Margaret
I just want to say 'Thank you!' to Lauren and hope that you will forward this message to her. I called Lauren as I have had a relationship issue for a while now and was very upset. She handled the situation very well, was validating, empathetic and helped me to sort through all the conflicting emotions and issues. While I was very upset last night, I really feel that after speaking with her, today, I feel much better and have greater clarity- I couldn't ask for anything better. Thanks again, Lauren for your support! It is much appreciated! ~ Mari
Absolutely first class, excellent, usable advice. Melodie not only listened to every word I said with patience and understanding she had practical, insightful useful ideas & suggestions. I was confused when I first requested a conversation with Melodie. I did not know what to expect or how I should begin. She seemed to understand instantly all of my concerns and she started oof the coaching session by putting me at ease. Her insights into men was enormous & it certainly explains alot about their behavior. She changed & improved y life today with her words & suggestions - all of which were given in a gentle yet firm approach - a kind, no-nonsense delivery. Never condescending - always positive and human & laced with life experiences I can only guess at. I am grateful for the chance to have spoken to her. Thank you for having this feature. ~ Susan
Your coaches are an excellent help with any isssue I am experiencing. I would highly recommend your services. Debbie was a definite help to my situation and she was very attentive to my problem. I will be giving her a call again in the near future. ~ Mary
Sonja, was WONDERFUL!! I gained many insights into my problems. She listened and offered advice when necessary. I will be calling her again. Sonja gave me exercises to work on and information on how to deal with the situation at hand. I felt as though I was talking to someone better than my therapist. She made a few comments and statements that were prophetic in my healing and moving forward (wife had emotional affair). I was beating myself up and hurting badly. After the call I felt hopeful and much better. ~ Scott
Christine was so compassionate and insightful. I was distraught and depressed with how my relationship is progressing. I realized after speaking with Christine that I'm compromising my needs. Granting me permission to be angry with my boyfriend really helped to put my feelings and how to move forward in perspective. ~ Luba
I found it really helpful. I had an issue that I needed a neutral person to help me get through and also help me to move on and I felt I really got that. So thanks and glad to know that that is available ..just a phone call away.
~ Tania
Coach Merna once again has helped me in ways that I never thought possible. I am slowly healing day by day from a 5 year relationship. it has been very difficult, but with her by my side listening and giving advice, I am slowly getting better and understanding that I have to take care of myself! ~ Courtney
Sonja was a very good listener and very helpful to me in my current situation. She emphasized the importance of my own needs being met, which has not been happening in my current relationship in which I am more of a caretaker. Truly, this relationship needs to be ended and I (and apparently she as well due to her recently sparse contact) am seeking to do just that amidst some very intense pain. ~ Gary
Debbie identified all the main areas of my relationship with ease. Providing outstanding viewpoints and perspectives. Looking at the roots of the relationship Debbie inspired me with the growth that has taken place so far and the growth that can still take place. Talking with Debbie reaffirmed the actions I know I need to take and give them power. Debbie successfully created the space to get clear and feel relaxed about the difficulties that where causing stress. ~ Anthony
Debbie was very friendly and an active listener. She asked many questions to clarify the situation and seemed genuinely interested. She provided good suggestions and insight as to why my partner behaves in a certain way. ~ Amanda
Melodie was very helpful and helped me feel peace and strength. She did not tell me what to do but gave information and guided based on what I wanted to do. I will call her again and recommend this site. ~ Stephanie
It was amazing, Sondra really helped me feel better and see that I hadn't been putting myself in my partner's shoes and other faults and made me understand why I was doing it, reaching the conclusion on my own. ~ Myriam
My session with my coach was really great. Merna clarified many of my concerns and fears about dating. She was very professional and very knowledgeable when it came to providing advice. I would definitely recommend this service to anyone seeking guidance in the dating arena. ~ Michael
I thought Lorrie did a great job of both listening, and suggesting. She was a pleasure to work with. She was able to give specific suggestions, as well as some of the background reasons why. And she was able to suggest a time period, within the decision. ~ Donna
Melodie was excellent! I could tell she was listening b/c I didn't have to repeat details of my situation, she offered great insights of what's going on in my relationship and I already feel empowered to make it better. I am choosing to continue coaching with her! ~ Juan
I have nothing but praise for her special ability to quickly get to know clients. She is really very special and has helped save our marriage. I will continue to work with her and grow in love in my marriage. She is very professional and yet personal at the same time. God bless her. Thank you. ~ Dianne
Debbie was compassionate and a good listener. She was very helpful in clarifying my wants & needs. She helped to give me insight into behaviors that might be sabotaging my relationships. She gave me concrete solutions for my problems. ~ Kristin
Susan quickly assessed my situation with great accuracy and gave me practical advice as to how to handle it. I sometimes get confused with all the conflicting advice from friends and even books. She helped me decide on the best course of action and the right attitude to take towards my dilemma. ~ LeAnne
I think [Debbie] is a great coach. She gave me several exercises to work on.
She eased my pain with my previous relationship and put everything into perspective.
I would like to talk to her again about some other situation. ~ Rebecca
Christine is fantastic to talk to. She has helped me in a short amount of
time like none of my other friends have been able to do. She has been helping
me get a new way of looking at dating and teaching me things I am not as far
off as I thought I was in the dating world. ~ Anonymous
I really enjoyed talking to Christine. She has a very caring and concerned
voice. She helped me work through a lot of issues and offered homework and
suggestions, along with role playing and suggested followup calls which I am
going to do. ~ Deneen
Tonight I made my first phone call to the Mars Venus counseling service. I
met a very pleasant woman on the other end of the line who introduced herself
as Sondra. I told her this was a new experience for me, so she patiently explained
the process and how she could help. Over the next two hours, she listened carefully
and offered timely feedback as I talked to her about my relationship as well
as my fears, hopes, and dreams for the future. At times I felt I was rambling
on and not making any sense. However, Sondra did a great job of pulling out
the important details and helping me to make sense of everything. She also
suggested some activities I could do that would help me to get past some things
that were holding me back and to move forward in a positive direction. At the
end of the conversation, I felt a sense of relief. I know the same problems
I faced yesterday will still be there tomorrow, but now I have some tools for
managing them and putting my fears to rest. I also know that if I get into
a rough patch, I can set another time to talk to Sondra and she will help me
to get back on track. I appreciate her time and thoughtful answers, and it
will be a pleasure to follow up with her in the future. ~ Cathy
[Sondra] was great to talk to. Very compassionate and understanding. I’ve
talked to her before, many, many times and she understands my situation. She
encourages me and empowers me. She says the results lie within myself. No coach
has said this to me before. ~ Pamela
Lauren has been of tremendous help in helping me sort through my feelings
and work through some my feelings in a constructive manner. I feel positive
about my coaching sessions and positive about my relationship outcome. ~ Susan
I found it really easy to speak to Lauren. She was able to give me honest
feedback and something to do while I wait for my partner’s response.
She was very validating and comforting as I was very upset. I will be calling
back to speak with her. ~ Mari
This was very helpful during a low moment. I got really good advice as well
as a new way of looking at things. This helped me not make a major mistake
by contacting him. Reaching out here helped me to not contact him. ~ Karen
Susan B. was terrific and helped me see where my past experience might be
making me more upset than I need to be. Grateful for the coping strategies
she offered. Also very helpful to get clarification on what is really going
on. ~ Bridget
It was my second session with Melodie and I really like her support and down
to earth ideas. It’s like speaking with a “professional friend”.
I will call again, Melodie is a reliable person and I am glad I can call her
when needed. ~ Francoise
Melodie was a very patient listener who put forward some solid suggestions
for me to try. Nice to hear a real person speak of M/V principles rather than
just reading words. 20 minutes was not long enough. ~ Anonymous
Incredible counseling. I was impressed by how well Melodie listened and gathered
information. She also possesses worldly experience and knowledge about different
cultures. I would definitely turn to her again to handle my counseling needs. ~ Anonymous
Merna really gave great insight in helping me turn negative, needy thinking
into something more positive and self assured. It cleared up my confusion over
how my current relationship is progressing. ~ Anonymous
Coach Merna was incredible and extremely helpful. She truly listens to what
you have to say and gives incredible advice. I recommend her to anyone! I will
definitely be in contact with her again soon! ~ Courtney
Hi - Just wanted to give Merna some great feedback! I have been working with
her for 1 1/2 years and rely on her to keep me grounded. I don’t know
what I would do without her. She has helped me thru 2 relationships so far
and has gotten me to a place where I have found a wonderful man who has always
been just what I was looking for. I am secure in who I am and understanding
Martians. She has been invaluable to me. ~ Anonymous
Just a cheer of thanks to one of your coaches. Admittedly, I basically talked
her ear off--probably needing reassurance and validation of what my gut was
telling me already more than anything. By listening and validating, as well
as offering her own thoughts, she was of great help. Not only did I send the
email we agreed was best suited to the gentleman in question, but I had an
immediate, long, heartfelt response that showed he is still in this with
both feet...and has been dealing with serious custody issues I was unaware
had arisen in the past few weeks. In the end, these were more real life
distractions and quite necessary focus than rubber band issues, which
alone offers a sense of relief.
The coach’s voice was one of reassurance and calm at a time an already
relatively confident woman needed to hear exactly that. Thank her for me, if
you would, and know that having a voice on the other end of a phone (in tandem
with such wonderful texts) is indeed the magic combination.
~ Cinda
You guys are so amazing. I so appreciate you for being there for me.
The bottom line is that my boyfriend Rick just contacted me this morning to
tell me of his love & devotion to me. Wow!! He had rubber banded for
four weeks. I received his return with grace & happiness. I trusted that
he would be back. I’m still on cloud nine. He is a gem of a man. He’s
so cool.
For the past couple of months every now & then I’ve contacted your
coaches regarding his pulling away issues, which at times had me doubting myself & our
future relationship. In other words it was driving me nuts not hearing from
him. I never called him or ran after him. A few days went by, then a week,
two weeks, then three. Last week Wendy was the coach who took my call. Through
her insights, she helped me structure a very short neutral & upbeat e-mail
to Rick which I later composed, prayed over & e-mailed to him last week.
Julie, Wendy & the rest of the coaches have been right there for me during
his caving & rubber banding times. It had been two days short of one month
when he contacted me today. Last week, I felt my thoughts were swimming
in the well and were probably going stay there doing back strokes, but
then I felt my confidence rise up, and out of the well I came. I just knew that
Rick was coming back very soon, so I started preparing for his return. It’s
like when you know, you just know.
When I first met Rick, a strong Christian man & an airline captain, a
few months ago, I gasped. I knew at that moment that I had just been introduced
to my soul mate. I have been a John Gray enthusiast for a number of years reading
his books & attending seminars. Through the years, I somewhat lightheartedly
practiced the techniques described in his books & lectures, but never nurtured them
into my personality until the past year & a half. I promised myself that
the next romantic relationship in my life was going to be the Gray way 100%.
I even got a couple of my girlfriends to read Dr. Gray’s books & so
forth. We were building a team & we jokingly call ourselves the Gray
girls. My goal has been for us to work on ourselves & take the
insights into our hearts, to change in us what needed to be changed in messing
up relationships in the past. Yes, my two best friends (also single) have been
right here supporting me as I have them. When the urge to call Rick would start
to overpower me, I’d call one of them or the Mars Venus coaching line.
I know this is simply a hurdle among many that Rick & I
will face. This is the first time that I actually made it through the waiting
period, because in past relationships I’ve always run after the guy to
find out what had happened. In fact, I have some other girlfriends that could
not believe how & why I was holding back from contacting Rick. I had to
keep them from running after him on my behalf. And they did not after I sat
them down & had a long talk with each of them to either get with the Gray
way, support me or go away. Then I gave them one of Dr. Gray’s
books to read. I said let me prove it to you that Rick is rubber banding or
caving or whatever & that he will be back soon. In fact, I had just starting
dating again filling up my life & keeping busy. But I kept on trusting & believing
in myself. But most of all believing in my soul mate & that God has a plan
for our lives together.
I just want to say thank you to all of you for caring enough to listen & coach
all of us when we call in. You are awesome. Now Rick & I are at the beginning
of a great relationship. Where it will take us only God knows. I have encouraged
many friends to give you guys a call. It is good to know that the Mars Venus
coaches are always there for us.
~ Carrington
Thank you for such a fun websight. Your coaching program is one like no other.
The person I have talked with over the last six months has been an asset to
everything I am doing. The interesting thing is that I always seem to get the
same person and that person and I have a lot in common. Ten years ago I would
have never have thought that any of this would be able to help me with my problems.
Relationship counselors are the best and yours are top of the line. I would
tell everyone how good the one I am seeing is but I don’t want to share
him! John Gray has restored my faith in men and that there really are good
people. I have a long way to go with him, but I know that having a relationship
with yourself is the key to good health.
Thank you for helping the world become a better place.
~ Sherri
I was really skeptical about a service like this one. Could it really
help me? I realized as the call went on that my skepticism is the same feeling
that I have toward men. Are they going to hurt me? Can I trust them? It was
really enlightening to see just how much my last relationship is still affecting
me today. We talked about the process of starting over, and I think I’m
further along today than ever before. Not because they said the magic words,
but because I now see that I have been a part of the problem. How can I trust
a man if I don’t trust myself? I also liked that I had to do the exercises.
The coach offered several to me and I’m glad now that I wrote it all
down and worked on it later.
~ Ann
I was really having a hard time understanding why women do what they
do. It was all a mystery to me. Listening to my coach talk about women made
me feel less crazy. They’re not any different than we are - they just
use different words and need different things. I used to think it was a competition
to get what I wanted from the women in my life. If they got what they wanted,
I had to lose somehow. Listening to the coach talk about women, it suddenly
started to make sense. We really do just speak different languages. I guess
all I really needed was a dictionary.
~ Bill
I was really hoping that the coach would help me fix my husband. He
always seems to be doing two things at once and I don’t feel like he’s
paying attention to me. Well, the coach didn’t help me fix him, she helped
me fix me. I had no idea that there were so many things I could do that would
encourage him to pay attention to me, without having to throw a fit or demand
it. I never knew how much I was contributing to the problem. After the call,
I decided to try the exercises and my husband actually sat down with me and
LISTENED to me! It was amazing.
~ Sarah
When I first thought about talking with a coach, I was nervous.
I didn’t know what kind of advice I would hear or if they would really
make me feel better. I was surprised to feel comfortable talking with my coach,
and it was a lot easier than I thought to tell her what was really going on.
Calling was easy. They didn’t judge me or make me feel stupid for having
this problem. Thanks again!
~ Melodie
I had no idea that someone would understand so quickly why I’m
frustrated with dating. It was as though she knew my whole life. After being
out there for so long, I felt like I was doomed to bad relationships, one night
stands, and the inevitable ‘I’ll call you’ line. After talking
with my coach, I finally saw what I was missing, and it only took one phone
call. Thumbs up to the Mars Venus Coaches, you really helped me see something
I couldn’t or wouldn’t before the call!
~ Sandy
I wanted to send you a quick note of thanks for a session I had with
a Mars Venus Coach last week. I’ve read all of the books and feel like
I could recite Mars Venus in my sleep, but I couldn’t figure out why
my guy was making me so crazy. Why weren’t things working out between
us? All I could think was that it was me... my coach pointed out that my guy
has not really been honest with me and that there may be some problems from
his dishonesty in our future. I NEVER wanted to admit how bad things were until
she said it. It’s so strange how I was making excuses for him, and making
it my fault. My coach wouldn’t let me do that and she immediately saw
what I was doing and helped me to face it.
~ Kendra
I recently experienced a very painful break up that I was still trying
to make sense of. Peter, my relationship coach, helped me immensely to better
understand my boyfriend’s point of view and possible state of mind, and
why things happened the way they did. He also gave me suggestions for how to
move forward in connection with any future communication with my boyfriend
and how to reach some resolution and closure through that communication.
After hanging up the phone, I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off
my shoulders. I am sure there are still difficult times ahead as I work through
the pain and continue to grieve, but I feel better equipped to move on and
have more peace of mind, because I understand why things turned out the way
they did and can stop second guessing myself. My decision to call was inspired.
~ Jennifer
Wanted to say thanks to Myrna (I hope I spelled her name
correctly) when I spoke with her last week (I think it was). She was very reassuring
on the phone and let me know that everything I did was in fact not only correct
but made me feel good about who I am and where I am in my relationship. So,
a big thanks to her. And she was right!
~ Eric
This was the first time I’ve ever called anything like this.
She was wonderful - she made me feel comfortable talking to her right away,
made it easy to open up. She has given me some very helpful places to start
working on my issue’s with my b/f. And I would love to speak with her
some more to really dig deeper in to my issues to gain more understanding of
myself and possibly my b/f. ~ Anonymous
Dear Melodie,
I just want to say thank you to you , because when I’m talking with
you I really do feel looked after and safe and I know that you have so much
wisdom, understanding and love - real kindness - towards me, and I’m
sure most everyone you meet, and also especially towards men...
~ Caroline
I came to Melodie in extremely bedraggled emotional condition from
my roller coaster relationship. I was actually in a near hysterical state of
remorse and feeling an overwhelming desperation for the love of this man. Melodie
allowed me the conversational space to not only discuss this particular instance
of disappointment, but also to reconnect it with the original broken heart,
which I had never really mourned. Her encouragement to fully grieve all of
the painful pages in my life has literally transformed my psyche over the last
few months.
The first step to loving yourself is to hear the grief of your heart. Her
guidance and advice through this initial stage of healing was indispensible,
as has been her compassionate understanding and love. I continue to consult
Melodie as I progress along my path, which I’m happy to say is becoming
sunnier and brighter by the day. I might have succumbed to my conscious and
unconscious pain and stayed in the house numbly suffering for who knows how
long! Melodie encouraged me to take on new challenges, new opportunities, and
new friendships. She has also encouraged me to tackle the very thoughts that
used to be unconsciously felt as low self-esteem. I now find myself capturing
these thoughts and consciously countering them successfully. I expect that
this on-going work will enable me to live in this world in a truly loving and
fearless manner.
Finally, that guy? The one I was desperately needy for? I have come to realize
that that neediness, however compelling, is not true love. I’ve been
able to take responsibility for my own misguided love and have been able to
rescue the real compassionate, kind, and accepting love of this man as he is
for who he is right now. As of now, we are not together. But the love I feel
for him is not painful at all. It is patient and hopeful for all possible outcomes,
without expectation or disappointment.
Thank you, Melodie! You have given me a terrific gift: myself, a work in progress! ~ Anonymous
I can not express enough how I grateful I am to our conversation yesterday
and helping me to understand what BM is going through as well as myself. A
weight has been lifted from my shoulders and I feel as though I can breath
again, love again and forgive. I look forward to many more conversations with
you as my coach. I’m also going to share my feelings on the Ask Mars
Venus reading board so others may be inspired by my story and get the help
they need the way I did. It started for me by reading the stories on the reading
board. I’ll email you later this week to schedule our next coaching session.
I need to work out my financial situation. The way I see it is I’m investing
in myself. This is one way I can nurture myself and help heal my heart and
that’s worth everything to me.Thank you for everything. I am so grateful
to you.
~ SA
I just want to say that Melodie was helpful this AM, when we spoke. She gave
me clear suggestions that i think i can follow. They are very do-able. Plus,
her attitude about what I told her (in terms of where my boyfriend is, what
he and i are like, and how to best interact with him) seemed positive. That
was empowering, in and of itself. She gave me the sense that she THOUGHT I
would give him his space to do things with friends, which reinforced to me
that that is really important.
Thank you!
~ Judy
I spoke with Peter and I just wanted to give feedback because it was
a great experience and very insightful for me. I look forward to touching base
again.
~ Sally
“...Using a relationship coach is great especially when you are
getting mixed advice from friends and family. Having someone trained in the
field can give you the proper tools you need in order to keep from sabotaging
your relationship. No one teaches you how to be in relationship. That is why
I am grateful for John Gray and his coaches for being there when things got
difficult.
~ Anonymous
Would you mind passing a note to Gwen? I would just like to say thank you
to her. Her advice did help me to deal with my situation. Good insight. Thank
you.
~ Susan
Hi there,
I have been speaking with Melodie over the past few weeks following the ending
of a five year relationship. I have read so many of the Mars Venus books like,
If you feel you can heal, and staring over to name a few, but having her listen
to me, and help me through this difficult time, has been a brilliant!
I just wanted to say a huge thank you, and of course, to JG for those brilliant,
insightful books!
Mars Venus lover,
~ Bernice
Merna,
You have been such a great comfort and counselor to me for the past year.
I wanted to thank you for all the work you did with me. It has helped me tremendously.
I now have tools to help myself: through feeling letters that you taught me
to write, and through a new ‘voice’ that speaks more kindly to
me from inside on a daily basis!
You have helped me relationally with dating and with overall self-esteem.
You taught me differences between men and women and it has helped me to trust
men and communicate more effectively. You also listened to the deeper core
issues from my past to help uncover new ways to approach all of life! I am
very greatful.
I really appreciate your professionalism and always being available to me
when I needed to talk.
Thank you for all you do.
~ Susan
I was throughly pleased with Merna’s insight and advice. Everything
made sense that she had to tell me, she was friendly, easy to understand, and
as helpful as can be. She gives a clear cut understanding of what the issue
is, and how it can be taken care of, along with the steps it involves. Her
advice is structured and sound. I look forward to talking to her again. ~ Anonymous
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