Gwen was such a good listener, she gave straight forward advice and even had a polite way of saying " Carla I hear you saying I know that a lot" and it didn't offend me at all. She appreciated my honesty and I hers. Gwen kept a calm manor even if I got a little excitable. She knew how to draw the appropriate information out of me in order to give me the best advice possible for my situation. In fact planning on calling Gwen again in a few minutes to set up another appointment with her. She is a gem! ~ Carla
Coach Christine was so helpful in helping to see the reality of my situation. She helped me realize that there is work to do on myself that would allow me to release what has held me back from experiencing a fulfilling relationship. I look forward to continuing the work to break away from unhealthy tendencies so I can experience the joy of a happy and healthy relationship. She is a good listener, seemed to understand where I was coming from and had constructive advice. I look forward to continuing my work with her help. ~ Rose
Susan was good, she tried to help me w/my situation and understand the "uncertainity" of it all. Its just hard, because we have a past, and she understands that as well. She explained the Cave to me, and Rubberbanding. She explained that we both have to trust and not rely on the past. Talking to her put me at ease, she pointed out positives as well. She told me that when I get the urge to call him, I should email or call her instead, that why I'm not bothering him while he's in his cave. It was some good advice. Thanks! ~ Mona
Lauren was AWESOME! If you are ever stuck, emotional or just need to talk to someone to figure out what's going on, give her a call. We got to the core issue really quickly and it wasn't actually what I thought it was about. I'm now feeling a bit more empowered to explore it and am not so anxious or worried. I would highly recommend Lauren to anyone. She was non judgmental and could really see the issues just as they were. I was able to express what was going on yet remain stable and clear on an outcome that felt right for me. Thanks Lauren. It's made a huge difference to my life. I'm grateful for your time, love and dedication to my happiness. ~ Kimberley
Lauren was very helpful. She listened to me carefully and guided me about what to do and how to handle my situation. I feel a lot more in control and grounded after talking to her. I was very confused about how to handle my problem and situation, and with her help I feel like I can deal with the issue with more confidence, and understand my situation better. I would highly recommend that to someone. It has been a great help for me, and I'm happy that I made the phone call. ~ Shadi
Lauren was very helpful and she helped calm me. I am hoping to talk to her again soon...like in the next 5 minutes :) She referenced other books and explained what I was doing right for the relationship I am in as well as what other steps I could take to improve myself and allow him to "cave". She explained that some of his behavior was the indeed the "warrior" from the ancient days and how I can more respectfully respond to him. I will be calling her again and I could use some advice tonight...hope she is available! ~ Sheryl
Christine was great ... I know that the questions she asked me ... were important to her advice. And, I did take the first step of her advice tonight and I am very pleased with the results! My M responded and we had a great conversation and we agreed to step up communication and move the relationship forward. I won't see him now for at least 2 weeks due to his travel, but Christine has given me tools and plans to deal with that and she and I will be talking again! ~ Suzanne
Christine has been very helpful to me in trying to process a recent bad experience and to learn from it and continue to improve my relationship skills. She is helping me to create a dialog that will help me to hopefully get some answers and be able to close out a relationship in a positive way so that I can move forward and be more successful. She is helping to understand better how very different I define certain things compared to how the man I had been dating defined certain things (specifically what being 'exclusive" and in a "committed" relationship. I am hoping to have the opportunity to have a final conversation with this man, but don't know yet if he is willing to. ~ Robin
I spoke with Gwen about the problems I was having with a guy who I had been dating and, in fact, used to be engaged to. Gwen was very helpful in providing me with more perspective on the situation. Sometimes its really difficult to see things from another person's point of view and that's why speaking with her was so valuable. I also was considering certain decisions at that time that may have been counterproductive to the outcome I wanted in the relationship and she helped me see why it wouldn't be in my best interest to go down that road. In general, I found Gwen to be a great listener and thought that she gave sound advice. Thanks a lot! ~ Racquel
I had no idea what to expect from this call so was a little apprehensive at first, but Christine instantly put me at ease and made me feel comfortable. I immediately felt perfectly able to express what was going on for me without any judgement. She remained unbiased throughout the call; which was great for me as although I have lots of wonderful friends who I can talk to, many of them will respond with 'isn't he terrible' type comments, as it's their way of showing they're on 'my team' - very sweet but not always productive! Christine helped me see that my method of trying not to show any 'upset' in our relationship was actually proving to be counter-productive too; as by doing so I wasn't allowing my M to have the opportunity to offer solutions to any problems - something that I now understand he loves doing! Christine took the care to fully comprehend my situation, and I'm confident with this good understanding the tools she's going to give me to work with on our next call will be very exciting - can't wait! ~ Nadia
Anne was very helpful to help me confront what I needed to within me and find out what the status of my relationship is. I plan to use her some more as my friends aren't as objective with concrete advice as to what I need to do to get the results I want. I need to do more work with her as we just touched the tip of the iceberg. She took my issues and my concerns into consideration - it wasn't as if she was reading some script and saying you should or shouldn't do something. She helped me find out what I wanted and gave me steps to take to help see what happens. ~ Rebecca
Susan's great! She's very supportive and comes across as genuinely caring and wanting to see me happy. The service also comes across as very objective and not "taking sides" or "preachy." She is well-versed in the Mars and Venus books and it was such a relief to hear a live person tell me I'm not crazy, I'm not wasting my time, and the things I'm feeling are perfectly normal -- for Venusians! She's helping me learn new communications skills and to not beat myself up for making mistakes. She's been great! ~ Susan
Lauren was very patient and supportive of my situation. She helped me a lot and gave me good advice which is what I was looking for. She really cared about my feelings and situation which is something very rare. A very good person. I would highly recommend her to anyone else. She took the time and care to ask me specific questions to understand my situation better and gave me good advice of reality instead of just saying what I wanted to hear. She was a good listenter and was pleasant to talk to. ~ Ian
Gwen was very empathetic. She let me expose my rawest feelings without apology. I especially liked her exercise to complete the sentences of what I would say if writing them to my guy. I'm still in pain, but feel better having talked it all out. I have many people I can lean on, however her being detached emotionally put a different spin on it. I will be following up on my homework with the hopes it will help me heal... ~ Georgianna
Debbie was wonderful. She gave me great advice and I left with great clarity about my problems and issues that we discussed. She doesn't just listen, she gives suggestions and asks pertinent questions. I took her suggestion and ordered JG's latest book, to help me even further with my issues. I will definitely call her again in the future and will most certainly recommend her to my friends. She's got a great personality and we really had a great conversation. I think this coaching is a great resource. ~ Alice
I really enjoyed my call with Gwen. She was able to put my mind at ease regarding my relationship. I really felt like she listened and was able to help me see things in a different light. After our call I was so much more at peace with where things stand with my boyfriend. She was also able to give me some guidance on where I need to grow and where he needs to grow. That gives me something to work on, but also gives me insight into how to help support him and how to ask for what I need. ~ Maribeth
Susan B was kind and considerate and listened to the details of my relationship issue. She asked key questions and made sure she understood the details/timeline of my situation. She was not judgemental. She asked me what I thought I should do. Then she gave me guidelines and a gameplan. And as a nice touch, she apologized that the painful things that happened to me had occurred. And it was sincere and not just stated. That made me feel better. She also validated my feelings. I was not alone. She also gave me her personal contact information in case I wanted to contact her specifically. ~ Lisa
Gwen has a kind and empathetic soul that she combines with wisdom and real-world experience to sooth and nurture while offering practical advice. She has helped me to sort out, prioritize and deal with a barrage of problems with respect to different aspects of my life that have thrown me off course simultaneously. She is an active listener who fully espouses and disseminates John Gray’s principles in ways that offer the greatest benefits to her clients, i.e. as a backbone in her quest to help her clients to help themselves. She asks thoughtful questions and knows when to step up to the plate with advice as well as when to sit back and listen. I recommend her highly. ~ Barbara
Susan has done an incredible job over the phone with my outlook and attitude towards dating and my own self image. We have worked through many dating issues realizing that they each have a deeper rooted issue from the past. As i have learned to focus more on myself and inner healing I have become more balanced as a person and as a result I am able to enjoy the dating process! ~ Ginger
I thought Susan was terrific. She knew what I was going through immediately and was able to give me some good answers. I am looking forward to speaking with her again... The issue is that my boyfriend, whom I hope still is my boyfriend, has gotten sick and wants to be alone. No phone calls, no emails. It has been several weeks now and I am feeling badly and am worried that it is over but Susan reassured me that this is not atypical. I am eager to speak with her again. ~ Pamela
Today's call was very helpful in that Mary assured me of some questions I had in the "uncertainty" stage of dating. She explained that step to me and that it is a good thing that my boyfriend is initiating that step so we can both be sure this is the person we want to be with. Now I understand more clearly where he is coming from, which calms my nerves a bit. He is a wonderful man and I don't want to lose him, especially because I am being insecure about his need for space. Now I will take this time to reassess my feelings as well and go from there. Thanks Mary! ~ Kimberly
I just can't say enough about how wonderful the experience was talking to Susan. Her voice and loving, supportive attitude were like a soothing balm to my fevered emotions. For the first time in my life, I am ready to love with all my heart and I know I can't do it alone. So I am deeply grateful that I don't have to. Thank you all sooo much for having this coaching program. Many thanks to John Gray for his wisdom and his sharing of that wisdom and much thanks to Susan. I definitely will call again. ~ Kathy
Coach Christine pinpointed my problem and stated how she would help me to prevent me from getting into this situation in the future and to prevent this negative experience from happening again in the future, how to approach the situation, after I explained my situation in detail in relation to the disappointment I felt regarding my dating mars dilemma, she listened patiently and carefully to my dilemma and without interrupting me. She provided direction on how to contact her again to speak to C. ~ Teresa
Debbie was excellent. She listened and provided answers and helped me to understand what may going on in my very new relationship. She provided encouragement, which I really, really needed. And she also provided solutions. I have some exercises to do which I am also working on. Not much has changed in my relationship yet but it really, really helps to have Debbie to talk to. I'm not sure where the relationship is going yet...still but I am hopeful. I'm sure I will be talking to Debbie again soon. ~ Hilary
Mary Beth is a very good listener. She validated my feelings and helped me with a game plan with my current relationship issue. Although she led the conversation, she was actually guiding my thoughts so that I could make my own decisions. She listened as I outlined the details of my situation, asked me key questions to confirm that she knew the facts, and we together worked through my feelings and thoughts using the Venus/Mars resources. Her voice was calm and she made me laugh at times to put me at ease with the conversation. I'd recommend the Coach Line and Mary Beth to anyone. ~ Lisa
Christine gave me a new perspective on the situation with which I was concerned and it turned out she was quite right! She pointed out that my 90/10's were largely the cause of my concern and that I should take a step back and give it a chance. Within a day, my Martian was right where Christine said he was! My 90/10's are a large part of my fears in relationships and I will look to Christine again to help me work through those 90/10's with me so that I don't take them out on my Martian! She was kind, insightful and dead on! ~ Judy
My coach was extremely helpful. She seemed to genuinely care about and want to help with my situation. She listened and provided very valuable feedback... She made it seem like we're a team and we're going to figure this out and work on it together. I'll be calling her again. ~ Laura
I found Debbie to be very helpful and kind, and I appreciated her advise. She listened to me at length and then asked me questions that triggered me to question my feelings and actions, as well as his. Also, I will use her advice in the future about listening better and asking questions at the appropriate time when I don't understand instead of passing up on the opportunity. I will definitely call her in the future. I would highly recommend her to anyone with relationship questions/problems. Thank you Debbie! ~ Deb
Debbie was a wonderful coach. I was nervous at first, but soon felt very safe to talk. By the end of our conversation, we had cleared up my thinking, soothed my nerves and gotten to the bottom of what was really hurting me so I could deal with the real issues. She listened and responded with helpful, insightful questions and advised "homework" that addressed the very core of my needs. I am so glad I called, and I will call and e-mail again. Debbie was nonjudgmental, understanding and incredibly helpful. ~ Candice
The call was truly helpful. It allowed me to feel and deal with my mixed emotions in a safe none judgmental place. Susan's insights were awesome. She gave me some great tools to work with but mostly she made me feel heard and understood which was not the initial reason for my call but was truly what my heart and soul needed at the moment. It was a very positive experience that I would highly recommend. I was so caught up in the wonderful conversation it was like talking to a close friend only better. ~ TaTanyasha
I enjoyed talking to Susan. She was very caring and listened to my problem. Then she tried to help me figure out where this line of thought or this pattern of behavior was coming from. She helped me to identify the cause of my actions and also gave me some tips on how I can go about changing these behavior patterns in myself. I guess it does all go into how we react to situations and in my case I did realize that I had caused this problem due to my own history. I just hope that I have not totally messed things up and am able to salvage this relationship. Thanks. ~ Mehnaz
Lauren is a good listener. I had a tough problem at hand, but she tried her best to get some answers amongst the multitudes of issues that were at hand. She was able to organize all the information I provided to her, took all of it in patiently, and provided whatever tips she could to best tackle the problem at hand. After talking out what I felt, I feel much better, and feel as if I had talked to a close friend of mine whom I had known for quite a while - I could be as open and as expressive as I could. ~ Ramkumar
Gwen was absolutely the epitome of what it means to be a relationship coach. She is compassionate, yet tough with thought provoking questions and she stays true until the end....Thank you so much Gwen! ~ Donna
I found the coaching session to be insightful and it left me feeling hopeful instead of dejected. My coach was understanding and seemed to pin point certain areas that I had been mentally avoiding facing up to in a very sensitive way. I liked the fact that there was a system that was being followed on past experience and the "homework" given. I liked the fact that she identified with how I was feeling as well as thinking. ~ Vasuki
Lauren was absolutely the best! She listened well, was caring and compassionate, yet gave me some really great advice that helped me understand my Martian and myself better. She gave me several tools to work with to prepare me for my next conversation with my guy and helped me gain a better perspective regarding the entire situation. To have someone so knowledgeable deal with my particular situation was extremely helpful. I have found my relationship coach and will talking to her whenever I need guidance. Thank you, Lauren! ~ Gaye
Debbie is an outstanding listener and can get right to the bottom of things. Even when I thought I was making no sense, she could hear through my confusion and offer insightful questions to bring clarity to the situation. She also has a wide variety of approaches and is obviously very well trained. She is open to learning more about my unique situation, and that tells me she is committed to her clients and her profession. Debbie promptly responded to all emails and is very positive in her replies. Her homework assignments were extremely helpful as well. Thank you Debbie/MarsVenus! ~ Sandra
Christine is a great Mars/Venus coach for me. She knew exactly what "stage" I was in and pinpointed what I personally needed to focus on to reach my relationship goal. She has given me the support I needed to stand up for my needs and be patient. Everything she has adviced me on has worked. You just can't get this kind of guidance anywhere else. My story is still unfolding but I can't wait to see what happens next. I believe the Mars/Venus way of dating really is the only way that truely leads to finding your soulmate. ~ Dana
Susan was really helpful in hearing my situation, and looking below the surface to discern what was really going on. She was especially helpful in translating what was going on in a guy's mind, which gave me direction in how and what to communicate in response. She encouraged me to step out in faith, and to express how I really felt, instead of withdrawing in self-protection. It helped me realize that I would never have the relationship I wanted, without a willingness to express what I wanted.
~ Donna
I spoke [to] Susan today. When I first started out I was a bit apprehensive. My main goal was to get clarity and her coaching opened my eyes and mind to the various scenarios we discussed. Her questions made me think about my feelings and she gave me validation as well as clarity into the situation. I felt I had a clearer understanding and hung up feeling ready to continue on the healing process without any bitterness or questions. Susan helped me to feel centered again and her understanding gave me reassurance. ~ Ann
Debbie was a wonderful coach. I called her at a painful and tense time in my relationship and she talked me through what was hurting me to pinpoint the real issue at hand. She listened so patiently and asked plenty of questions to clarify and help me see why I was so upset and how my partner felt about my actions also. More than that, she gave me exercises to do on my own and an action plan to mend what had been broken. She helped me take control of a situation where I felt helpless and I am confident that my next interaction with my partner will benefit from talking to her and sorting out my feelings. I will be calling back! ~ Melissa
I really enjoyed the conversation. It was helpful and positive. Debbie was very kind and easy to talk to. She gave me some good feedback. My problem seems that it is not solvable right now but she helped me to understand what I should do. I was talking to her about my experience with dating a guy that is not ready to be emotionally involved right now because he has not healed from his divorce yet. I was trying to figure out if he is non committal in spite of the great connection because all the elements are not there or if he is just not ready for a relationship right now because he has not healed. Debbie seems to think he is not done mourning his divorce yet. I really appreciate her help and guidance. ~ Kelly
My coach was extremely helpful! She made me feel very comfortable and I felt like I was talking to a lifelong friend. She helped me better understand my feelings and my situation. I plan on contacting her again in the near future to help me through the next steps of my situation. It is hard and I have to learn to let go but I feel I am ready to do that now after talking with y coach-as ready as I'll ever be anyways. I cannot thank my coach enough for all her guidance and support. John-keep writing! Thanks! ~ Kelly
I appreciated my coach's careful attunement to my concern. She listened carefully, empathetically, and I didn't feel judged. I felt she did a really good job of identifying my main concern, stuck with that topic, and didn't go off on unnecessary tangents. Her questions and reflections were effective in helping me to move forward through the problem. Without words, I felt a sensed her positive attitude, and from that, cracked through the despair I was feeling. She gave me an exercise to do, which, in all honesty, I've done before. But this time, she gave me hope that with her help, doing the exercise would move me closer to attaining the relationship I so sincerely am seeking. ~ Roseanne
I will be calling to schedule follow up with my coach. She put me at ease and i was able to speak freely, without judgment or criticism. I shared some things with her that I have never shared with anyone, and I believe just talking about my situation with a non biased, trained coach is going to be the best gift I can give myself during this transitional time. I have just begun to read the Mars/Venus book and it has greatly helped me already. They should be read by everyone muddling through the dating world. ~ Lisa
Susan was very interested in helping me. She gave me an idea to think about and challenged me with a question. I look forward to booking time with her in the future. It was quite evident that she knows what she is talking about. I look forward to talking with her so can uncover what I am doing to prevent the right man from being attracted to me and how I will draw that personality to me. Its clear that she believes she was called to be in this position and wants to help people. I would love to have her knowledge ~ Linda
I was absolutely impressed. My coach is fantastic! She provided me insight that I would have never considered. She was very easy to talk to and I felt completely comfortable sharing my issues with her. She is able to balance being supportive and encouraging, along with being challenging and thought provoking. She also provided me exercises to work through on my own, so I can continue my work on my own until I speak with her again. I'm so glad that I made the call and I am looking forward to our next appointment! ~ Elizabeth
My coach is fantastic. She has the experience with marital issues that is needed to help guide the lost and weary. She has the gentle voice that soothes the broken soul. I would highly recommend anyone with marital issues, to contact my coach. My husband and I still have issues but I know I have my coach to speak with when I need guidance or comforting. John Gray's Men are From Mars and Women Are From Venus books do make sense and she conveys his messages with accuracy and diplomacy. She challenges when neccessary but always in a way as to not put you off. She really is a great asset to the Mars Venus team. ~ Heather
Coach Christine was very helpful and encouraging. She helped me address some of the issues that I have in regards to my current relationship. Coach Christine helped me to recognize when men cave and how to respond positively to the cave. She also helped me understand how to speak to men in a way to get them to listen and respond to us as women. Coach Christine also is working with me to address deep rooted issues I have from past relationships so I can progress in future relationships without feeling as if I am working. ~ Christina
Debbie was very helpful and informative. She gave me insight to my current relationship to be receptive and positive. I look forward to speaking to her again. My boyfriend is definitely caving right now with all the stresses in his life and I'm definitely on the wave ride close to crashing. I have learned from reading the book Mars & Venus Dating that I have been pretty much the one doing everything in the relationship. I am now taking the approach of allowing him to pursue me once the stress load has reduced in his life more. We had gotten to stage 4 in our relationship, but now it seems to have stallled. I am practicing self assurance, being receptive and responsive in our relationship. ~ Hilda
My coaches feedback and coaching was incredibly helpful. She helped me to recognize how my history and past relationships were coloring how I was looking at my current relationship and why. She also helped me to level set where I was in the dating cycle and how I should proceed forward in dealing with both my feelings of uncertainty and the fact that he is apparently in the same phase and dealing with past issues of his own. It helped to also hear that my communication issues are not unique and be provided with a technique to work through my internal frustration, fears, and nervousness. ~ Joanna
I will say again that my coach was a big help. I got the book she suggested and have been reading through and beginning the exercises. It's tough to start over and I feel like she is making herself readily available to me. I really appreciate that. I also find that some of the concepts sound fine on paper and you can write things out, but until you practice them it's not the same thing. My coach is helpful at looking at what I have done in terms of past behavior, and she is helping to guide future decision-making so I don't keep making the same mistakes. ~ Annette
It was a pleasant call. I am glad that I got to talk with Susan today. She helped me realize what was going on in my relationship. Although we did not solve everything (I know only I can do that) she was a lot of help to me. She listened and gave me feedback on the situation as well. She was compassionate yet honest at the same time. I do not know what the future holds for my relationship and I am still very confused about things. But I feel better after our conversation. I know that does not have to just do with our conversation but it also has to do with me and my determination to move on with or without my boyfriend... ~ Jessica
I am truly grateful that I found your service. My friends are helpful but sometimes don't give the best advice. But my coach helps me understand the situation from both sides. With Her coaching I have seen results & I hope my romantic relationship continues to improve. If not with my current love interest than with the next guy someday. Privacy is important to me. It can't be guaranteed with friends or family this is another reason I rely on this service. I have told friends about this service too. Thanks. ~ Teresa
Susan B. was great - she took the time to get to know and understand my situation, validated my feelings, but gave me real, concrete advice on how to proceed. I would call again. Even when I questioned the Mars/Venus method (i.e. why women are the ones compromising when men are in the cave - my concerns that his needs are being met while mine are not), Susan was supportive and validated my feelings. ~ Melissa
My coach was so insightful and really helped me start exploring the root of my problems in relationships. She made me feel so much better and helped me understand that I can take control of life. I didn't realize how much pain I was holding onto and also how past events were taking a toll on my happiness. I knew I had dealt with very unfortunate situations but I wasn't aware that they could be affecting my dating life. She showed me how they are related and now it seems so obvious. I feel with her help I will be in a much more positive place very soon! And hopefully ready to meet my soul mate. ~ Heather
I really felt the conversation had value. While I had worked out much of what I wanted to prior to my talk but Gwen asked insighful questions and contributed some thoughts that I had not fully considered. Overall the session helped me understand the situation and develop a good win-win plan for moving forward with my wife so that we may continue along the road of happiness we are on. Although this was my first session of this type I am confident that as we move forward I will call Gwen again and tap into her for additional insight as well as helping me fully understand what my thoughts are as it relates to my relationship. ~ Dave
I really enjoyed speaking with Cyndi. She really helped me gain some clarity in my situation. It is so wonderful to have the support of someone that really knows the Martian ways! I have read 3 of the books, and having someone to discuss the material with live was wonderful and tremendously helpful. I'm in a new realationship, and as we are learning about each other, little insecurities have come up for both of us. In just the day it has been since I spoke with Cyndi and used some of the tools she recommended, I'm feeling more confident and connected with him. I have been recommending the books to everyone, and will definitely encourage people to speak with a counselor if they get "stuck"! I will definitely call Cyndi again. ~ Melanie
I have been struggling with several issues in my life in addition to my relationship. I began my conversations with Mary Beth several weeks ago and have established a routine of calling her on a weekly basis for support. She has been a tremendous source of comfort and has helped me through some very dark times in my life. I never thought I'd find this kind of support by making a phone call to an "800" number. But Mary Beth has a natural ability to make callers feel comfortable... as if they are chatting with a close friend or neighbor. She has a gift for listening sincerely, validating my feelings, and offering helpful feedback. I always hang up the phone feeling just a little bit better than I did before. I wish she lived somewhere nearby so I could schedule appointments with her. Although I've met with a local counselor, I have not established the type of connection I have with Mary Beth. Fortunately, Mary Beth has made herself readily available to talk to me on a regular basis. She always reminds me that she is there to listen and offer support when I need it. I know that one day I will look back on this difficult chapter in my life and know that she helped me through it. I will always be grateful for her understanding and willingness to help. She is an extraordinary counselor person! ~ Cathy
My coach was incredible. Her beautiful voice was so comforting and empathetic. She was not redundant as many people can be and get nowhere. She was very reassuring that what I was experiencing was normal and I was not to feel alone. She validated my fears and reactions. She gave me the tools to confront my situation and then how I will be able to deal with the aftermath. She let me talk and asked the correct questions. I felt as if she knew exactly what I was going to say next. I would recommend her to anyone that has fear and mostly uncertainty. ~ Jil
It was very nice to speak with someone who knew and understood the concepts behind the MarsVenus books; someone who could clarify a bit better, when I needed it. I felt validated and encouraged to continue on the path I am on, with these new tools. The coach was friendly, approachable, and knowledgeable, and I didn't feel awkward or embarrassed in the least. I certainly won't mind calling back, if needed. I appreciate the support, and the ability to explore further with homework suggestions, and the fact that I can call the same coach again. Thanks ~ Tami
I thought Christine's advice was great - she really helped me to find the words and get the courage for a difficult conversation I need to have - now I just need to pull it off! I think it can be a bit odd (for me at least) to talk with someone I've never met about a problem, but the best part was that I felt she was asking a lot of the right questions, being objective, and not just telling me what I want to hear. I would definitely use the Mars-Venus coaching again since I tend to over-think things and get myself WAY too spun up about stuff! ~ Michelle
My coach is amazing. What I really like about our calls is that she gives me actual exercises to work on, actual step-by-step guides for what to do. I want sympathy and someone who understands what I am feeling... but I also want to know why I am feeling the way that I am, why my boyfriend is behaving the way that he is, and what I can do to improve the relationship. Give me specifics and information that makes sense. Merna does that... through her guidance and support, I have made so much headway into the source of my pain and suffering... and how I can move forward in my current relationship. Again, she is amazing. ~ DeAnn
Mary Beth was really calming and helpful. She made me feel comfortable, and she made me more confident about my situation. I think dating is probably one of the hardest things you deal with in Life, and it helps to have a resource such as the Men are from Mars Women are from Venus coaching. I really feel like I have a new grasp on the male/female differences that so often ail us in relationships. My situation is still not resolved, which is unsettling, but Mary Beth gave me the comfort I needed to help get through it. ~ Palmer
My coach is as always, the BEST. She helped me clarify my thoughts on several issues. I called because an old flame, over whom I had spent many months in the anguish of unrequited love, emailed me. It had been 2 years since the ending of the relationship, and a year or more without seeing each other. Out of the blue he sends an email, wanting to get together. Needless to say, the spell of this man was long broken; yet, there is curiosity about whether it could be rekindled, and more importantly, whether it should be rekindled. She is spectacular at getting to the crux of an issue. ~ Judy
The telephone session was very helpful. My coach was insightful and communicated well. I explained my situation and background information. She gave me reassurance and good ideas--both of which I appreciate because I need to be very patient with this situation, and I so much want it to work out. I find that much of the advice available in books and online is more geared towards younger daters so I appreciated having an individual session. ~ Margaret
I just want to say 'Thank you!' to Lauren and hope that you will forward this message to her. I called Lauren as I have had a relationship issue for a while now and was very upset. She handled the situation very well, was validating, empathetic and helped me to sort through all the conflicting emotions and issues. While I was very upset last night, I really feel that after speaking with her, today, I feel much better and have greater clarity- I couldn't ask for anything better. Thanks again, Lauren for your support! It is much appreciated! ~ Mari
Absolutely first class, excellent, usable advice. My coach not only listened to every word I said with patience and understanding she had practical, insightful useful ideas & suggestions. I was confused when I first requested a conversation with my coach. I did not know what to expect or how I should begin. She seemed to understand instantly all of my concerns and she started of the coaching session by putting me at ease. Her insights into men was enormous & it certainly explains alot about their behavior. She changed & improved y life today with her words & suggestions - all of which were given in a gentle yet firm approach - a kind, no-nonsense delivery. Never condescending - always positive and human & laced with life experiences I can only guess at. I am grateful for the chance to have spoken to her. Thank you for having this feature. ~ Susan
Your coaches are an excellent help with any isssue I am experiencing. I would highly recommend your services. Debbie was a definite help to my situation and she was very attentive to my problem. I will be giving her a call again in the near future. ~ Mary
Christine was so compassionate and insightful. I was distraught and depressed with how my relationship is progressing. I realized after speaking with Christine that I'm compromising my needs. Granting me permission to be angry with my boyfriend really helped to put my feelings and how to move forward in perspective. ~ Luba
I found it really helpful. I had an issue that I needed a neutral person to help me get through and also help me to move on and I felt I really got that. So thanks and glad to know that that is available ..just a phone call away.
~ Tania
My coach once again has helped me in ways that I never thought possible. I am slowly healing day by day from a 5 year relationship. it has been very difficult, but with her by my side listening and giving advice, I am slowly getting better and understanding that I have to take care of myself! ~ Courtney
Debbie identified all the main areas of my relationship with ease. Providing outstanding viewpoints and perspectives. Looking at the roots of the relationship Debbie inspired me with the growth that has taken place so far and the growth that can still take place. Talking with Debbie reaffirmed the actions I know I need to take and give them power. Debbie successfully created the space to get clear and feel relaxed about the difficulties that where causing stress. ~ Anthony
Debbie was very friendly and an active listener. She asked many questions to clarify the situation and seemed genuinely interested. She provided good suggestions and insight as to why my partner behaves in a certain way. ~ Amanda
My coach was very helpful and helped me feel peace and strength. She did not tell me what to do but gave information and guided based on what I wanted to do. I will call her again and recommend this site. ~ Stephanie
It was amazing, Sondra really helped me feel better and see that I hadn't been putting myself in my partner's shoes and other faults and made me understand why I was doing it, reaching the conclusion on my own. ~ Myriam
My session with my coach was really great. My coach clarified many of my concerns and fears about dating. She was very professional and very knowledgeable when it came to providing advice. I would definitely recommend this service to anyone seeking guidance in the dating arena. ~ Michael
I thought Lorrie did a great job of both listening, and suggesting. She was a pleasure to work with. She was able to give specific suggestions, as well as some of the background reasons why. And she was able to suggest a time period, within the decision. ~ Donna
My coach was excellent! I could tell she was listening b/c I didn't have to repeat details of my situation, she offered great insights of what's going on in my relationship and I already feel empowered to make it better. I am choosing to continue coaching with her! ~ Juan
Debbie was compassionate and a good listener. She was very helpful in clarifying my wants & needs. She helped to give me insight into behaviors that might be sabotaging my relationships. She gave me concrete solutions for my problems. ~ Kristin
Susan quickly assessed my situation with great accuracy and gave me practical advice as to how to handle it. I sometimes get confused with all the conflicting advice from friends and even books. She helped me decide on the best course of action and the right attitude to take towards my dilemma. ~ LeAnne
I think [Debbie] is a great coach. She gave me several exercises to work on.
She eased my pain with my previous relationship and put everything into perspective.
I would like to talk to her again about some other situation. ~ Rebecca
Christine is fantastic to talk to. She has helped me in a short amount of
time like none of my other friends have been able to do. She has been helping
me get a new way of looking at dating and teaching me things I am not as far
off as I thought I was in the dating world. ~ Anonymous
I really enjoyed talking to Christine. She has a very caring and concerned
voice. She helped me work through a lot of issues and offered homework and
suggestions, along with role playing and suggested followup calls which I am
going to do. ~ Deneen
Tonight I made my first phone call to the Mars Venus counseling service. I
met a very pleasant woman on the other end of the line who introduced herself
as Sondra. I told her this was a new experience for me, so she patiently explained
the process and how she could help. Over the next two hours, she listened carefully
and offered timely feedback as I talked to her about my relationship as well
as my fears, hopes, and dreams for the future. At times I felt I was rambling
on and not making any sense. However, Sondra did a great job of pulling out
the important details and helping me to make sense of everything. She also
suggested some activities I could do that would help me to get past some things
that were holding me back and to move forward in a positive direction. At the
end of the conversation, I felt a sense of relief. I know the same problems
I faced yesterday will still be there tomorrow, but now I have some tools for
managing them and putting my fears to rest. I also know that if I get into
a rough patch, I can set another time to talk to Sondra and she will help me
to get back on track. I appreciate her time and thoughtful answers, and it
will be a pleasure to follow up with her in the future. ~ Cathy
[Sondra] was great to talk to. Very compassionate and understanding. I’ve
talked to her before, many, many times and she understands my situation. She
encourages me and empowers me. She says the results lie within myself. No coach
has said this to me before. ~ Pamela
Lauren has been of tremendous help in helping me sort through my feelings
and work through some my feelings in a constructive manner. I feel positive
about my coaching sessions and positive about my relationship outcome. ~ Susan
I found it really easy to speak to Lauren. She was able to give me honest
feedback and something to do while I wait for my partner’s response.
She was very validating and comforting as I was very upset. I will be calling
back to speak with her. ~ Mari
This was very helpful during a low moment. I got really good advice as well
as a new way of looking at things. This helped me not make a major mistake
by contacting him. Reaching out here helped me to not contact him. ~ Karen
Susan B. was terrific and helped me see where my past experience might be
making me more upset than I need to be. Grateful for the coping strategies
she offered. Also very helpful to get clarification on what is really going
on. ~ Bridget
It was my second session with my coach and I really like her support and down
to earth ideas. It’s like speaking with a “professional friend”.
I will call again, my coach is a reliable person and I am glad I can call her
when needed. ~ Francoise
My coach was a very patient listener who put forward some solid suggestions
for me to try. Nice to hear a real person speak of M/V principles rather than
just reading words. 20 minutes was not long enough. ~ Anonymous
Incredible counseling. I was impressed by how well my coach listened and gathered
information. She also possesses worldly experience and knowledge about different
cultures. I would definitely turn to her again to handle my counseling needs. ~ Anonymous
My coach really gave great insight in helping me turn negative, needy thinking
into something more positive and self assured. It cleared up my confusion over
how my current relationship is progressing. ~ Anonymous
My coach was incredible and extremely helpful. She truly listens to what
you have to say and gives incredible advice. I recommend her to anyone! I will
definitely be in contact with her again soon! ~ Courtney
Hi - Just wanted to give my coach some great feedback! I have been working with
her for 1 1/2 years and rely on her to keep me grounded. I don’t know
what I would do without her. She has helped me thru 2 relationships so far
and has gotten me to a place where I have found a wonderful man who has always
been just what I was looking for. I am secure in who I am and understanding
Martians. She has been invaluable to me. ~ Anonymous
Just a cheer of thanks to one of your coaches. Admittedly, I basically talked
her ear off--probably needing reassurance and validation of what my gut was
telling me already more than anything. By listening and validating, as well
as offering her own thoughts, she was of great help. Not only did I send the
email we agreed was best suited to the gentleman in question, but I had an
immediate, long, heartfelt response that showed he is still in this with
both feet...and has been dealing with serious custody issues I was unaware
had arisen in the past few weeks. In the end, these were more real life
distractions and quite necessary focus than rubber band issues, which
alone offers a sense of relief.
The coach’s voice was one of reassurance and calm at a time an already
relatively confident woman needed to hear exactly that. Thank her for me, if
you would, and know that having a voice on the other end of a phone (in tandem
with such wonderful texts) is indeed the magic combination.
~ Cinda
You guys are so amazing. I so appreciate you for being there for me.
The bottom line is that my boyfriend Rick just contacted me this morning to
tell me of his love & devotion to me. Wow!! He had rubber banded for
four weeks. I received his return with grace & happiness. I trusted that
he would be back. I’m still on cloud nine. He is a gem of a man. He’s
so cool.
For the past couple of months every now & then I’ve contacted your
coaches regarding his pulling away issues, which at times had me doubting myself & our
future relationship. In other words it was driving me nuts not hearing from
him. I never called him or ran after him. A few days went by, then a week,
two weeks, then three. Last week Wendy was the coach who took my call. Through
her insights, she helped me structure a very short neutral & upbeat e-mail
to Rick which I later composed, prayed over & e-mailed to him last week.
Julie, Wendy & the rest of the coaches have been right there for me during
his caving & rubber banding times. It had been two days short of one month
when he contacted me today. Last week, I felt my thoughts were swimming
in the well and were probably going stay there doing back strokes, but
then I felt my confidence rise up, and out of the well I came. I just knew that
Rick was coming back very soon, so I started preparing for his return. It’s
like when you know, you just know.
When I first met Rick, a strong Christian man & an airline captain, a
few months ago, I gasped. I knew at that moment that I had just been introduced
to my soul mate. I have been a John Gray enthusiast for a number of years reading
his books & attending seminars. Through the years, I somewhat lightheartedly
practiced the techniques described in his books & lectures, but never nurtured them
into my personality until the past year & a half. I promised myself that
the next romantic relationship in my life was going to be the Gray way 100%.
I even got a couple of my girlfriends to read Dr. Gray’s books & so
forth. We were building a team & we jokingly call ourselves the Gray
girls. My goal has been for us to work on ourselves & take the
insights into our hearts, to change in us what needed to be changed in messing
up relationships in the past. Yes, my two best friends (also single) have been
right here supporting me as I have them. When the urge to call Rick would start
to overpower me, I’d call one of them or the Mars Venus coaching line.
I know this is simply a hurdle among many that Rick & I
will face. This is the first time that I actually made it through the waiting
period, because in past relationships I’ve always run after the guy to
find out what had happened. In fact, I have some other girlfriends that could
not believe how & why I was holding back from contacting Rick. I had to
keep them from running after him on my behalf. And they did not after I sat
them down & had a long talk with each of them to either get with the Gray
way, support me or go away. Then I gave them one of Dr. Gray’s
books to read. I said let me prove it to you that Rick is rubber banding or
caving or whatever & that he will be back soon. In fact, I had just starting
dating again filling up my life & keeping busy. But I kept on trusting & believing
in myself. But most of all believing in my soul mate & that God has a plan
for our lives together.
I just want to say thank you to all of you for caring enough to listen & coach
all of us when we call in. You are awesome. Now Rick & I are at the beginning
of a great relationship. Where it will take us only God knows. I have encouraged
many friends to give you guys a call. It is good to know that the Mars Venus
coaches are always there for us.
~ Carrington
I was really skeptical about a service like this one. Could it really
help me? I realized as the call went on that my skepticism is the same feeling
that I have toward men. Are they going to hurt me? Can I trust them? It was
really enlightening to see just how much my last relationship is still affecting
me today. We talked about the process of starting over, and I think I’m
further along today than ever before. Not because they said the magic words,
but because I now see that I have been a part of the problem. How can I trust
a man if I don’t trust myself? I also liked that I had to do the exercises.
The coach offered several to me and I’m glad now that I wrote it all
down and worked on it later.
~ Ann
I was really having a hard time understanding why women do what they
do. It was all a mystery to me. Listening to my coach talk about women made
me feel less crazy. They’re not any different than we are - they just
use different words and need different things. I used to think it was a competition
to get what I wanted from the women in my life. If they got what they wanted,
I had to lose somehow. Listening to the coach talk about women, it suddenly
started to make sense. We really do just speak different languages. I guess
all I really needed was a dictionary.
~ Bill
I was really hoping that the coach would help me fix my husband. He
always seems to be doing two things at once and I don’t feel like he’s
paying attention to me. Well, the coach didn’t help me fix him, she helped
me fix me. I had no idea that there were so many things I could do that would
encourage him to pay attention to me, without having to throw a fit or demand
it. I never knew how much I was contributing to the problem. After the call,
I decided to try the exercises and my husband actually sat down with me and
LISTENED to me! It was amazing.
~ Sarah
When I first thought about talking with a coach, I was nervous.
I didn’t know what kind of advice I would hear or if they would really
make me feel better. I was surprised to feel comfortable talking with my coach,
and it was a lot easier than I thought to tell her what was really going on.
Calling was easy. They didn’t judge me or make me feel stupid for having
this problem. Thanks again!
~ Melodie
I had no idea that someone would understand so quickly why I’m
frustrated with dating. It was as though she knew my whole life. After being
out there for so long, I felt like I was doomed to bad relationships, one night
stands, and the inevitable ‘I’ll call you’ line. After talking
with my coach, I finally saw what I was missing, and it only took one phone
call. Thumbs up to the Mars Venus Coaches, you really helped me see something
I couldn’t or wouldn’t before the call!
~ Sandy
I wanted to send you a quick note of thanks for a session I had with
a Mars Venus Coach last week. I’ve read all of the books and feel like
I could recite Mars Venus in my sleep, but I couldn’t figure out why
my guy was making me so crazy. Why weren’t things working out between
us? All I could think was that it was me... my coach pointed out that my guy
has not really been honest with me and that there may be some problems from
his dishonesty in our future. I NEVER wanted to admit how bad things were until
she said it. It’s so strange how I was making excuses for him, and making
it my fault. My coach wouldn’t let me do that and she immediately saw
what I was doing and helped me to face it.
~ Kendra
Wanted to say thanks to my coach (I hope I spelled her name
correctly) when I spoke with her last week (I think it was). She was very reassuring
on the phone and let me know that everything I did was in fact not only correct
but made me feel good about who I am and where I am in my relationship. So,
a big thanks to her. And she was right!
~ Eric
This was the first time I’ve ever called anything like this.
She was wonderful - she made me feel comfortable talking to her right away,
made it easy to open up. She has given me some very helpful places to start
working on my issue’s with my b/f. And I would love to speak with her
some more to really dig deeper in to my issues to gain more understanding of
myself and possibly my b/f. ~ Anonymous
I just want to say thank you to my coach, because when I’m talking with
you I really do feel looked after and safe and I know that you have so much
wisdom, understanding and love - real kindness - towards me, and I’m
sure most everyone you meet, and also especially towards men...
~ Caroline
I came to my coach in extremely bedraggled emotional condition from
my roller coaster relationship. I was actually in a near hysterical state of
remorse and feeling an overwhelming desperation for the love of this man. my coach
allowed me the conversational space to not only discuss this particular instance
of disappointment, but also to reconnect it with the original broken heart,
which I had never really mourned. Her encouragement to fully grieve all of
the painful pages in my life has literally transformed my psyche over the last
few months.
The first step to loving yourself is to hear the grief of your heart. Her
guidance and advice through this initial stage of healing was indispensible,
as has been her compassionate understanding and love. I continue to consult
my coach as I progress along my path, which I’m happy to say is becoming
sunnier and brighter by the day. I might have succumbed to my conscious and
unconscious pain and stayed in the house numbly suffering for who knows how
long! My coach encouraged me to take on new challenges, new opportunities, and
new friendships. She has also encouraged me to tackle the very thoughts that
used to be unconsciously felt as low self-esteem. I now find myself capturing
these thoughts and consciously countering them successfully. I expect that
this on-going work will enable me to live in this world in a truly loving and
fearless manner.
Finally, that guy? The one I was desperately needy for? I have come to realize
that that neediness, however compelling, is not true love. I’ve been
able to take responsibility for my own misguided love and have been able to
rescue the real compassionate, kind, and accepting love of this man as he is
for who he is right now. As of now, we are not together. But the love I feel
for him is not painful at all. It is patient and hopeful for all possible outcomes,
without expectation or disappointment.
Thank you! You have given me a terrific gift: myself, a work in progress! ~ Anonymous
I can not express enough how I grateful I am to our conversation yesterday
and helping me to understand what BM is going through as well as myself. A
weight has been lifted from my shoulders and I feel as though I can breath
again, love again and forgive. I look forward to many more conversations with
you as my coach. I’m also going to share my feelings on the Ask Mars
Venus reading board so others may be inspired by my story and get the help
they need the way I did. It started for me by reading the stories on the reading
board. I’ll email you later this week to schedule our next coaching session.
I need to work out my financial situation. The way I see it is I’m investing
in myself. This is one way I can nurture myself and help heal my heart and
that’s worth everything to me.Thank you for everything. I am so grateful
to you.
~ SA
I just want to say that my coach was helpful this AM, when we spoke. She gave
me clear suggestions that i think i can follow. They are very do-able. Plus,
her attitude about what I told her (in terms of where my boyfriend is, what
he and i are like, and how to best interact with him) seemed positive. That
was empowering, in and of itself. She gave me the sense that she THOUGHT I
would give him his space to do things with friends, which reinforced to me
that that is really important.
Thank you!
~ Judy
“...Using a relationship coach is great especially when you are
getting mixed advice from friends and family. Having someone trained in the
field can give you the proper tools you need in order to keep from sabotaging
your relationship. No one teaches you how to be in relationship. That is why
I am grateful for John Gray and his coaches for being there when things got
difficult.
~ Anonymous
Would you mind passing a note to Gwen? I would just like to say thank you
to her. Her advice did help me to deal with my situation. Good insight. Thank
you.
~ Susan
Hi there,
I have been speaking with my coach over the past few weeks following the ending
of a five year relationship. I have read so many of the Mars Venus books like,
If you feel you can heal, and staring over to name a few, but having her listen
to me, and help me through this difficult time, has been a brilliant!
I just wanted to say a huge thank you, and of course, to JG for those brilliant,
insightful books!
Mars Venus lover,
~ Bernice
You have been such a great comfort and counselor to me for the past year.
I wanted to thank you for all the work you did with me. It has helped me tremendously.
I now have tools to help myself: through feeling letters that you taught me
to write, and through a new ‘voice’ that speaks more kindly to
me from inside on a daily basis!
You have helped me relationally with dating and with overall self-esteem.
You taught me differences between men and women and it has helped me to trust
men and communicate more effectively. You also listened to the deeper core
issues from my past to help uncover new ways to approach all of life! I am
very greatful.
I really appreciate your professionalism and always being available to me
when I needed to talk.
Thank you for all you do.
~ Susan
I was throughly pleased with my coaches insight and advice. Everything
made sense that she had to tell me, she was friendly, easy to understand, and
as helpful as can be. She gives a clear cut understanding of what the issue
is, and how it can be taken care of, along with the steps it involves. Her
advice is structured and sound. I look forward to talking to her again. ~ Anonymous
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