There’s nothing wrong with being single. But when you are single, it sure can feel wrong. You may yearn for companionship, be tired of being the third wheel with friends, or hate allowing others’ opinions of singlehood to influence your self-image. If you’re starting to doubt the real reasons behind your single status, get inside your own head with this quiz. Find out if you’re single by choice or by default, and what you can do about making your life exactly the way you want it to be – whether you’re walking that path alone or with a partner by your side.
1. In general, your exes …
Are pretty decent people, I’m even in touch with a few
All feel like the “one that got away”
Are miserable, no-good, lousy …
Keep their distance from me even though I want to be friends
2. Is it better to rush into a relationship or take things slowly?
It doesn’t really matter to me
Getting serious quickly is a sign of passionate love, which is what I want!
I think every relationship has to set its own pace
Slow – I don’t want to give myself any chance to get burned
3. You have an unscheduled evening and decide to …
Find someone, anyone, to hang out with
Join another online dating service
Order in, watch TV, and just relax
Make an appointment with my shrink so I can gripe about my love life
4. Do you mind waiting for a relationship?
Of course I mind! I have things to do and goals to reach. I’m tired of waiting!
I need my expectations to be met so I guess it’ll take as long as it takes
I’ve waited this long, so I guess not
Nope. When it’s right, it’s right. I can be patient
5. At the end of a night out, your date says “I had a great time” and “I would love to do it again.” You feel …
Happy, but not particularly hopeful
Pleased, but not pressured
Elated – and begin imagining our future together
A little panicky
6. Do you think you’re capable of feeling love?
I think the question is, “Could someone actually love me?”
Absolutely! I have always been ready to love
I don’t know … sometimes I feel numb
Yes, I think I could feel love with the right person
7. When you go out and get a drink with friends, you …
Often end up talking about the one who got away
Check out everyone in the place looking for other singles who might have potential
Hang out together and catch up
Make it clear that I’m with my friends and not looking to meet anyone
8. Do you know what you want in a partner?
Sure, but does it really matter as long as they love me?
Does anyone know what he or she wants?
I have a pretty good idea of what I want but I’m open-minded
Yes, I’m looking for someone who embodies very specific characteristics
