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 Engaged, but afraid to get married |
 08/09/04 03:48 PM
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I'd love to get some outside viewpoints on this!
I've been engaged for over a year now, to a wonderful guy who I truly can't say enough great things about. I love him to death, and I am certain he feels the same way about me, that's not in question here. What is in quesiton, however, is WHY he would ask me to marry him if he isn't actually ready to get married. Has anyone been in a situation like this? He loves me, he stresses that he adores me and that he wants to build a life with me, etc...however the thought of actually planning a wedding and getting married scares him to DEATH! He talks often about all the things that come after a wedding...having kids, buying a house, etc...however he cannot bring himself to agree to start planning a wedding. When REALLY pushed, he's mentions that he's afraid things would change...that we have it SO great right now, what if all that changed...? What if my feelings changed? What if his feeling changed?? A lot of our friends have been breaking up lately (out of 7 couples we are the one of two that are still together), and even divorcing and I think this has freaked him out. When I push him as to WHY he asked me to marry him even though he wasnt' ready, he says that he wants me to know that he is commited to me and that he loves me. Does anyone have any advice? How long do I give him? Is there anything I can say or do to help him realize that I am NOT going to change the second we tie the knot? I don't want this to get to the point where I have to leave for him realize what he's going to loose!! Help!! Thanks 
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littles Engaged, but afraid to get married 08/09/04 03:48 PM
louise 117 littles,
I have a similar mindset to you--I don... 08/09/04 06:02 PM Francia [ COLOR=purple] I know where you are coming from ... 08/15/04 09:21 AM melamory Littles,
I have been engaged for a year, and we ... 08/19/04 09:44 AM
littles Thanks for the advice!
It's not that I am... 08/23/04 12:20 PM  |
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