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 Should I Move On, Or Keep Working At It? |
 09/28/10 12:56 PM
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I agree that therapy may be useful. But I worry that this is a pattern of his - a control issue. He can control you by giving in to what he knows you want, then pulling it away when he thinks you've been "bad" or he wants something else (the affair). Even if he does finally commit and marry you (for fear of losing you, perhaps) I fear that he will continue to use this control tactic over and over.
If you agree to go to therapy, then bring up this use of control by him - get it into therapy and be firm about how it makes you feel. Do not let him control the therapy sessions, and do not just blindly believe in the therapy. (Been there, done that and won't again!!) |
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