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 07/25/10 06:57 PM
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 AMVU Freshman  Gender: 
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Group: Registered Users Posts: 153 Joined: 05/20/10 From: Somewhere over the rainbo Relationship Status: Single and Looking  |
I met an M online a couple of weeks ago. Have had two dates with him so far - drinks and dinner. Both went well but the dinner date was partially interrupted by phone calls regarding issues he is having in regards to a property development project he is involved with and the media's interferrence with this - long story...
Anyway, on both occassions (apart from the interruptions during dinner which he apologised profusely for) he was a perfect gentleman (unlike my past 2 OLD who were like gushy gropers!!) At the end of the dinner date he told me he was enjoying getting to know me and would love to do it again. Sent a few nice txt messages. Then the day after he sent me an email saying . . . "Still working through the house/DA business. What a sh*tty job but I should get there.Actually I probably should say that I am going to be very focused on that for a little while and I don't think that I will be able to give you the attention that you deserve. I hope you aren't offended. M" So, I took that email as meaning that he wasn't interested and replied "That's fine, take care - J" But since then (mid last week) he has been txting and calling me. Asking how I am. Expressing interest. I'm a little confused because I want to say to him "so what's the deal?? Are you still interested or were you really serious when you said you would be temporarily unavailable?" But I'm not going to say that to him of course. I am being receptive and nice and not pursuing in any way. I would just really appreciate your views on this. . J 
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07/25/10 07:28 PM
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 jessicarabbit97 Gender:
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Group: Peer Moderator Posts: 10331 Joined: 11/18/05 From: North Texas Relationship Status: Single and Looking |
None of us know for sure, but my guess is one of two things:
*He really IS that busy and didn't think he'd have time for you. Parts of his project moved in a different way than he planned and now he might have more time than he bargained for. or *He didn't think he was interested and now potentially is. If you are interested in him, play along until you have facts that say otherwise. -------------------- Grace happens.
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07/25/10 07:31 PM
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Group: Registered Users Posts: 1587 Joined: 09/28/06 From: california |
Look, who knows what he meant. Sounds to me like he is very interested.
Sometimes when I am very busy and stressed and I have a big, big job to take care of, I look around for things that I can temporarily suspend. You should not be thinking about this, because you are multi-dating, right? |
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07/25/10 07:40 PM
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Group: Peer Moderator Posts: 4602 Joined: 06/04/08 From: Boston Relationship Status: Single |
QUOTE (jessicarabbit97 @ 07/25/10 07:28 PM)  If you are interested in him, play along until you have facts that say otherwise. QUOTE (annakarenina @ 07/25/10 07:31 PM) You should not be thinking about this, because you are multi-dating, right? Ditto! |
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