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 The Second Date Question, Not wanting one yet! |
 07/10/10 02:28 AM
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AMVU Freshman  Gender: 
Venusian
Group: Registered Users Posts: 21 Joined: 01/21/09 Relationship Status: Single  |
Hi everyone, well, I am back out and dating again. I haven't been able to find anyone I would want a second date with yet, but like to give M's I find nice a try.
I was just wondering how you V's turn down an invitation to a second date if you are not interested in having one. I hate hurting their feelings!!!! Thanks in advance.. |
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07/10/10 09:12 AM
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AMVU Freshman Gender:
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Group: Registered Users Posts: 244 Joined: 05/30/05 |
I've learned honesty is the best policy. I just say, "Oh thank you so much for asking. I don't know that we're a match, and I feel more comfortable if I decline. Very best to you."
These days of OLD, a lot of times since you have their email address, this can be done in writing, which I feel may soften the blow. Look, I've winked at guys who weren't interested (wrote me, thanking me for the wink but telling me they're not interested), and we've all had our share of M's who don't call back. I've tried the "Oh, I'm so busy this week" approach, but the ones who are interested will try again. And again. I've learned that an easier approach is simple honesty. May sting a bit at first, but easier for him to move on and find someone else. |
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07/10/10 11:18 AM
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Group: Registered Users Posts: 2598 Joined: 01/18/08 Relationship Status: In a Relationship |
I took the chicken approach and told them I had found someone I was interested in focusing on and thanked them for a great time, etc... and wished them much luck!
-------------------- love thyself first
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07/10/10 11:52 AM
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AMVU Freshman Gender:
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Group: Registered Users Posts: 244 Joined: 05/30/05 |
QUOTE (Meandering @ 07/10/10 10:18 AM)  I took the chicken approach and told them I had found someone I was interested in focusing on and thanked them for a great time, etc... and wished them much luck! I did that too once and a guy wrote me another email about a month later asking why I was still online! To which I replied that it didn't work out with the other guy, and he asked me out again....I finally had to just tell him the truth. Another time I stated a religious difference (I had put "Spiritual not Religious"), as I erroneously assumed he was a certain religion. He asked me my religion, which I told him (not a common one), and he said, "Oh! I am too!". I was like...oh no....again, had to be brutally honest. |
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