Reconnecting With An Ex, Negotiating it online and LD.. Options

[Hills]

I've written on a different thread that I'm back in contact with an M I was involved with almost 30 years ago. We haven't had any contact since just after I met the man I married, until now.

Things are going nicely, he emails every few days,he's a little flirty, but he has manners and is polite and has not been making any suggestive comments or anything like that.
We are planning to meet up, but it won't be for several weeks yet - we're LD.

I'd like to know, is an M likely to assume and expect physical intimacy when reuniting with a V he's been involved with previously?

We've exchanged pics etc and it seems that there's still a strong attraction on both sides, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't need to get to know who he is NOW..to me it would be like starting with a brand new rel'ship..I'm guessing that M's dont think that way though..

Does anyone have any experience of this or thoughts about it?
apologies if this isn't clear, I'm tired and feel as if I've not expressed myself terribly well!

[Hills]

Thanks everyone.

Anad - yes it made me even happier to hear that too! It feels better now that the wall is down. He said he has some plans to talk about with me (I wrote that he said there's lot to talk about, he didn't say that, he said he wants to talk about his plans - big difference between Ms and Vs!).

Debo - thanks. It all feels so good right now and i'm very comfortable with it.

AnnaK - if only I looked like Julie Christie ! There again, he's no Omar Sharif, well he is to me!

Phoenix - yes please, 5 star camping sounds more like what I'd prefer!

[Phoenix51]

Phoenix - yes please, 5 star camping sounds more like what I'd prefer!

Yes, it's a good start but for me I found it better to start rough and work my way up. That way the disappointment is less. It's called Beuvelande.

[Hills]

Phoenix - yes please, 5 star camping sounds more like what I'd prefer!

Yes, it's a good start but for me I found it better to start rough and work my way up. That way the disappointment is less. It's called Beuvelande.

Found it, thank you. I like the 'highest standard of washrooms' bit and looked at the gallery and the sink areas look nice. Will pass to M, in a discreet way of course so he doesn't think that I'm doing his 'job' for him
His background in the military has given him fabulous outdoor survival skils which I of course do not share. Nor wish to.

[Hills]

I spent quite a lot of time today reading my old blog, the one from when I was involved with CP ex...it has been a rather traumatic experience. I was horrified to realise how much bad behaviours I put up with from him. I always made excuses for it, and if I couldn't think of one, he always had a good one himself.
I'd like to be able to empower V's and help them to see that they really don't have to put up with poor behaviours from a guy. (Yes, I know that we women can be mean to guys too, I'm not man bashing here. Just saying I'd like to help other women). A big problem, I know myself, is that when you're IN the situation it's incredibly difficult to actually identify some poor behaviour.

Away from that, I'm reading HTGWYW. There's so much material in there, I never realised how much it covers. I may close this thread soon...my rel'ship is in new phase and I'd like to work through my thoughts as I read HTGWYW. So I think I'd like to have it all on a brand new thread.

M confessed today that he has already bought for me the first item to go in my storage area at his house - a set of hair straighteners! This made me laugh, he knows that I can't bear to be apart from my straighteners, it's so cute of him to get me some. I remember reading an interview many years ago, with Ivana Trump. At that time she and The Donald had 7 different houses. She said the easiest way to live with all those homes was to literally have a duplicate set of clothes, make up, toiletries etc in each home. I may have to do the same..