Hoping It Is Not Over .... Options

[Kayte80]

Becky, he said the following:

The next day he told he that it is clear to him we are just not working now and he feels it is time to end it.

I dont like saying this, but should you perhaps begin to accept that he doesnt just need space, but actually wants the relationship to be over?

I know this hurts greatly, but its prime reason for you to take note of this, and begin the healing process.

Its hard to accept that someone doesnt want to be with you any longer but its happened - it happens to us all.

x

[wanttofly]

Thanks for your posts. I know he could very well be done. That just blows me away because we really had such a good relationship prior to this one stress time. I also think of conversations that we had just prior to the break up and can't believe with what they were that a few days later he was done.

The not talking to me is the worst thing to me right now. I feel like I deserve a little insight here on what the heck happened. Not getting that is so hurtful to me. Does anyone else struggle with this? Any tips to get past it? Thank you for the support.

Becky

Becky, he said the following:

The next day he told he that it is clear to him we are just not working now and he feels it is time to end it.

I dont like saying this, but should you perhaps begin to accept that he doesnt just need space, but actually wants the relationship to be over?

I know this hurts greatly, but its prime reason for you to take note of this, and begin the healing process.

Its hard to accept that someone doesnt want to be with you any longer but its happened - it happens to us all.

x

[Kayte80]

The not talking to me is the worst thing to me right now. I feel like I deserve a little insight here on what the heck happened. Not getting that is so hurtful to me. Does anyone else struggle with this? Any tips to get past it? Thank you for the support.

Yes, it will be hard for you to grasp. The reality is you dont know and you may not ever know. But what is knowing really going to do? Give you more to think about? Prolong the pain? Give you ideas on how you can change to make it better? All of this is irrelevant for you. You need to move on and any more information will just prolong that process.

While we all would like to know what happened in order to get "closure", closure comes from YOU.

Also, you say the relationship was fine - but he may have been struggling in it and you would have never known.

You need to start focusing on you. I know we all say that, but we say it because we mean it.

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[wanttofly]

I am going to join you ! Thank you. I replied to you on your thread for the challenge. Becky

The not talking to me is the worst thing to me right now. I feel like I deserve a little insight here on what the heck happened. Not getting that is so hurtful to me. Does anyone else struggle with this? Any tips to get past it? Thank you for the support.

Yes, it will be hard for you to grasp. The reality is you dont know and you may not ever know. But what is knowing really going to do? Give you more to think about? Prolong the pain? Give you ideas on how you can change to make it better? All of this is irrelevant for you. You need to move on and any more information will just prolong that process.

While we all would like to know what happened in order to get "closure", closure comes from YOU.

Also, you say the relationship was fine - but he may have been struggling in it and you would have never known.

You need to start focusing on you. I know we all say that, but we say it because we mean it.

Check out my 30 day Challenge. Come along for the ride