Healing the broken heart, Letting go of unresolved feelings Options

[optics19]

Hello,

This is a new thread for those who are trying to heal a broken heart and move forward in their lives with a positive attitude having relinquished the negative feelings of their past relationships.

John Gray has authored a book called Starting Over that helps as a guide for this process. Are there any people out there who have been through this process and can shed some light on getting through the rough spots? Reading Gray's book is helpful, but hearing from people who have really healed from a broken heart and have let go of the pain, anger, hurt and have found forgiveness would be helpful I believe for many people out there!

Thank you for any comments!

[louise 117]

blue,

No, you're not going crazy.

I am to the point of moving out of state for awhile,but I cant quite bear to be away from my son. Yes, my son currently lives with his daddy.Not because I am a bad mother,but he just happens to own a home where my son feels comfortable. And being able to stay in the same school. I also asked him. He knows though that he can come live with me anytime he chooses.

Well, by my definition a person who puts the welfare and happiness of her child ahead of her own is an EXCELLENT mother.

I have just recently bought that book "starting over" and I am also hoping to start going to group therapy which my ex suggested.

Both good plans. I think the feeling letter exercise in the book will help you process and release your emotions. If you have any problem understanding it or understanding/applying any of the other information in the book, you can always call a Mars Venus coach and get help with that. And then you are welcome to poke and around and post/vent on the Message Board. Best of luck to you!

[optics19]

Hi Blue,

I'm sorry to hear about the pain and difficulty you're feeling now. Hopefully this site will help, and hopefully this thread will help you, too! It sounds like you're taking some really good steps towards releasing a lot of the feelings that may be holding you back. This thread was started as a discussion group for those who are dealing with unresolved emotions and who are interested in discussing the Starting Over book.

There was a woman named Ciel who had written extensively in this thread early on, and you may find some of the things that she had written helpful to you now. I found the book to be a tremendous help. Until I had read the book, I didn't even understand what 'getting over someone' really means. I think that a lot of people really don't get it either. Repression of feelings and avoidance seem to be most people's definition and remedies of the symptoms, but the book shows that there clearly is a better, healthier way!

The support group that you entered sounds great, too! It is good to hear that you are taking positive steps toward your healing and growth!

[bluebyyou]

Thank you for the replies. It helps to know that ya'll are out there.

I did indeed browse through previous letters. All I can say is wow. The depth of feelings and friendship are what prompted me to write. I am hoping to find that inner peace and come to terms with all these emotions I have going on. I am only a little ways into the book, but already I can relate. And thank you from my heart about the being a good mother. It really helps to hear. Sometimes it seems that is all you have.

thank you