What attracts you to a partner?, How much do looks influence your choice? Options

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I'd like to take a poll - just how important are looks to you in choosing a partner? Please post your comments as well!!

[marysia]

Here are my two cents.

A man who is charming, witty, sophisticated and confident can be plain, even homely, and still win my heart completely. Fred Astaire offered little in the way of good looks, but, oh, what magic to be under his spell. Humphrey Bogart, Bob Hope, James Cagney.....these were not handsome faces or hunky bodies but rather sharp and imaginative minds that created compelling, irresistible attraction. Even some of today's stars, Adam Sandler, Jay Leno, Jack Nicholson and Bill Murray, to mention a few, are not attracting women primarily with their looks but with their wit.

I wish every man could feel at least for a moment the confidence of knowing he is acceptable, desirable and lovable just as he is (assuming good grooming and good manners, of course).

I have the good fortune of having a beau who, while not conventionally handsome, has amazing sex appeal. He is confident and manly enough to pursue a woman--me at the moment--and to make me feel very desirable. Although I admit I had a few trepidations about his looks in the first few weeks of dating, within a few months I discovered him to be completely desirable to me. That feeling hasn't waned in two years, and for that I am grateful.

So, if you are a man, my advice is to pay attention to grooming, speech and manners, and to maintain your health and vitality of course, but don't worry about looking like a beautiful Adonis or David. Focus on making a particular woman feel beautiful and desired, and knowing that you can instill that feeling in her, and you will win her heart.

Marysia

[malvika]

i agree .. though it is first the looks that come into consideration. but if looks is all someone is looking for then they ought to remember that its only skin-deep. a good personality .. wit .. manners .. confidence .. good sense of humour .. they can transform a person to make him very attractive. But nothing makes a person more appealing more than the love and attention he gives to his partner. that is the ultimate turn-on.

[mrsrobinson]

You know the old adage "Don't judge a book by it's cover." Well, it works here too. For me, looks are what may catch my eye and interest, but there has to be substance there as well.

I generally don't give an average-looking guy a second glance...and as to the list mentioned above - Sandler, Murray, Leno...ugh, they may be funny, but I wouldn't go out with any of them. Now Marshall Mathers, Fred Durst, L Cool J, they're HOT!!! And I think I could "tame" the beast in them!