How can you tell if the man you are dating is ready and willing to take the next step - to make a commitment? Ask Mars Venus Relationship Specialists are often asked for reliable signals that a man is genuinely looking for love with the right woman. Our coaches can help you predict if he's ready to move towards exclusivity. If you are looking for a man who's ready to commit, check to see if he shows the following signs. If he does, you'll know he's dating you and only you in an effort to decide if you're the one for him - and that means you should focus on determining if he's the one for you!
The signs you're looking for are:
1. You spend a balanced amount of time at your place and his.
As couples grow closer they naturally want to blend more of their lives together. Keeping this balance is important as it indicates an equal level of interest, desire, and willingness to make the effort to win each other's heart. The problem is that we sometimes see what we want to see and we're not always the best judge of the person we have the strongest feelings for.
2. When you have to make changes to your schedule, he is respectful and flexible.
There are always times when we need to re-arrange our schedules. When he understands this, he is showing a willingness to put your needs before his own. This is a sign of generosity and consideration- qualities that most people are searching for in their life partner. The trick is to guage the right amount of genuine care that he is showing meaning his genuine desire to make to make you happy. Is it a chore or a natural response.
3. He starts missing personal events in order to spend time with you.
Let's say you have the night off and it happens to coincide with his favorite team playing on TV, but he chooses to spend time with you instead. Whenever he stops doing something he loves to do in order for you to spend time together, this is a sign he is willing to move forward. Keep in mind that this usually won't last forever, but it's a very good sign in the beginning. it's important to watch this behavior over time to know if it's a genuine feeling for you or his need to get what he wants.
4. He takes the time to get to know you.
When we begin to like each other as people, we tend to be more forgiving of each other's short-comings. Sometimes couples skip the five stages of dating and go from the Attraction stage to Intimacy, and don't take time to really get to know each other. Having sex too soon can diminish a man's desire to want to get to know a woman better. Taking the time to get to know each other is the foundation on which to build a healthy, successful relationship.
5. You have similar values, goals, and timetables.
Do you naturally share similar goals and beliefs? When a man and a woman share the same goals for the future, be it starting a family, building a career or business, they are able to be more relaxed and are free to support each other. Ask yourself or others, has he seen the real you. In this case woman can effect this stage because they haven't let him see the entire package. Does he really know you or the person you want him to know?
Looking for a soul mate certainly takes time and effort. By paying attention to the signals above, and talking with an Ask Mars Venus coach, you can discover if you are moving in the right direction.