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Understanding the 5 stages of dating

Understanding the Five Stages of Dating

The process of dating works so much better when there are clear guidelines to follow. Whether you are new to the dating scene or getting back out there, it makes sense to take some time to think about the kind of relationship that you are seeking, and then do your best to target the population of people most likely to share your goals and values. Some people may find the right partner easily, but most do not. Some people take longer than necessary because something is missing in their approach. This five-step approach from will help you to avoid some of the unnecessary pitfalls.

Stage 1: Attraction

In the first stage of dating, we find ourselves attracted to a potential partner. This is our initial attraction. It is our hope that the feeling is mutual, that the timing is right, and that we will have an opportunity to explore the possibilities.

Stage 2: Uncertainty

In stage two, the challenge is to recognize a shift from feeling attraction to feeling uncertain if that partner is right for us. This feeling is normal and you should be on alert not to be swayed by it. When you are dating someone who seems very special to you, it is normal to suddenly wonder whether you wish to continue dating that person. To become uncertain doesn't mean that this person is wrong for you. Without an understanding of this stage, it is too easy for a man to drift from partner to partner and for a woman to make the mistake of pursuing a man more than he is pursuing her.

Stage 3: Exclusivity

In stage three, we have made a mutual decision to be in a committed, exclusive relationship. The energy that went into looking for the right person can now go into creating a mutually loving and romantic relationship. You must be careful not to take the situation for granted. Continuing to do the little things that you did for your partner during the early stages of courtship are essential, not only now but for the lifetime of the relationship.

Stage 4: Intimacy

In stage four, we begin to experience real intimacy. We feel relaxed enough to let down our guard and share ourselves more deeply than before. Without an understanding of how men and women react differently to intimacy, it is possible to mistakenly conclude that we are just too different to proceed. This is the time to experience the best in ourselves and our partner, as we also become acquainted with the less flattering sides of our personalities.

Stage 5: Engagement

Stage five is engagement. This is a time to celebrate your love and commitment. You have made the determination that you are with the right person, and you are ready to move forward on your path toward a lifetime relationship. In this stage, you have the opportunity to experience your relationship joyfully, happily, peacefully, and lovingly. You will plan your wedding, discuss your future more fully, and learn even greater acceptance of one another, and your differences.

Have you been skipping dating stages or not completing them before moving forward? Learn how this information can change your life. Talk to one of our expertly trained relationship specialists today and get the answers you need. You can call from the privacy of any phone, and you can talk to someone that can immediately identify what changes you can make today. Don't wait for things to change, make a difference now.


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